My 88 year old mom is showing signs of increasing dimentia. She is also in poor health and is housebound. I have been trying to get her to name me as her attorney in fact, via a durable power of attorney document. I also need suggestions on how to talk to her about her future "care" needs. She is not very receptive to this type of talk, but I am the one who will end up taking care of her and I want to know what she wants.
My mom lives in her own home, but I do all of her gardening, shopping and take care of her needs. She cannot go anywhere on her own so it is up to me to take care of things. I have 5 siblings and none of them are in the area, nor do they make much of an effort to be part of my mom's life or her care. I have asked more than once for them to just telephone her or send her a card to brighten her day, but I have had little success getting them to help. I think some of them resent me for my suggestions. It causes me to get quite sad that they don't care.