What can I give him to do so he feels he is helping out? My husband and I are planning to move to FL the first of Feb. He has a very bad right shoulder, rotator cuff non repairable except for total reversal which we have decided he cannot tolerate the surgery for many reasons. So basically he is a one armed man now so what can I have him do ? He cries because he says he is so sorry for being so useless. Makes me sad. Help?
Give your husband a small box to put his toiletries in.
I think there are a lot of things your husband can do to feel a part of this experience and to feel as if he's helping. I think it's very kind of you to think about his needs in the middle of a stressful situation. He's lucky to have you.
Make him feel in charge, have him make lists and pretend that all the decisions are his good ideas.