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I agree about reading a lot about dementia. I don't have a spouse who has it, but, I do have another family member who does. Early on, she became very disagreeable, argumentative, agitated, etc. Nothing I did was right and she would make outrageous comments and swear it was the truth. I had no idea what was causing it. It wasn't until later that we realized it was dementia. If I had known, I wouldn't have wasted so much energy in trying to convince her of things, trying to make her be nice, etc. Because, there is brain damage, it's just not possible. I'd learn to let things go and just try to keep things as tolerable as possible. Reasoning, explaining and hoping that they will agree or accept reason, is not likely to work. The arguing is really pointless and just adds to the aggravation.
I would try to get outside help so you can take breaks and get respite time. It's very stressful to do what you're doing. It can really take a toll on your physical and mental health. I'd try to get some time for yourself and to rest away from the stress.
I might also discuss it with his doctor. If he is suffering from anxiety or undue mental distress, he may need medication for it. I might explore that with his doctor.
I am oh so new at this, who am I to give advise. My husband is 77 with "mild Alzheimer's" also and arguing with him is not an option anymore. I find that just agreeing with him is the best way to handle any situation. He is childish and I have to remind myself just to agree and walk away. It is easier on me and right now I have become so tired and frustrated that I really don't care if I am right or wrong. I am not going to win, and what difference does it really make anymore. I send my love to you and want you to know that I know what you are going through and you are a Saint.
If this is a sudden change, we always say have them tested for a urinary tract infection. Those can wreak havoc in an elderly person.
I am one of those rebels who thinks that having “mild” Alzheimer’s is like being a little bit pregnant. If he has not been formally diagnosed, he needs to see his doctor who may send him for further testing. Do your own research on Alzheimer’s/dementia to see what to expect. If he is still fairly aware, he may realize what’s happening to him and is scared. A lot of men react with anger when they’re afraid of something. The doctor can help with that too.
Alzheimers is a disease that has no reverse gear. It can be controlled for a while with medications. You may want to think to the future of where he will go when he needs extra help.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
I would try to get outside help so you can take breaks and get respite time. It's very stressful to do what you're doing. It can really take a toll on your physical and mental health. I'd try to get some time for yourself and to rest away from the stress.
I might also discuss it with his doctor. If he is suffering from anxiety or undue mental distress, he may need medication for it. I might explore that with his doctor.
I am one of those rebels who thinks that having “mild” Alzheimer’s is like being a little bit pregnant. If he has not been formally diagnosed, he needs to see his doctor who may send him for further testing. Do your own research on Alzheimer’s/dementia to see what to expect. If he is still fairly aware, he may realize what’s happening to him and is scared. A lot of men react with anger when they’re afraid of something. The doctor can help with that too.
Alzheimers is a disease that has no reverse gear. It can be controlled for a while with medications. You may want to think to the future of where he will go when he needs extra help.