There is insurance on her car but it can't cover her, I had been paying it but just switched payments over to her personal account. I took the keys away and she was livid, basically purple with rage. She was so angry that I gave her the keys back because I thought she might have a stroke. She cannot be reasoned with. If I am liable then I would prefer to remove myself from POA. She drives slowly to a local strip mall for groceries, pharmacy, and a restaurant, bank etc.
She doesn’t get to have a hissy fit to get her way and run the risk of potentially hurting someone or herself. Most accidents happen close to home. 1 in 3 within a mile of home I have read. It is not easy giving up one’s independence but it’s not easy being the bad guy either. I’m sorry.
I wouldn’t want that blood on my hands for anything. I don’t care how purple she gets. If she has a stroke, call 911.
Even though you are not legally reaponsible, from what I'e read of your other posts, you allow this narcissistic woman to manipulate you and destroy your future.
How about setting a boundry for once and saying "no" and sticking to it.
If she has a stroke, so be it.
No, as POA you are not liable for her decsions.
You say she doesn't have a license plus she cannot be reasoned with. This means no "normal" discussion or approach is going to keep her calm and accepting. Yet, she needs to be prevented from using the car asap. Many on this forum have disabled the car so that it's not start-able: disconnect the battery or remove other parts that would prevent her from knowing what is wrong with it. You may even want to discretely engage her neighbors to let them know what's up and maybe they can help with this strategy. If she asks a neighbor for help they should know to call you instead of a mechanic. Is she able to call a tow truck by herself? You need to be prepared for this and as her PoA you will need to contact that shop to prevent any work and then get busy selling it and cancelling her insurance. It's not enough to deflate tires, the car needs to be difficult to reinstate.
The other half of this ruse is to discretely ask neighbors to offer to drive her to the store or to pick up items for her. You can consider a grocery delivery service and anything that solves the need for her to drive anywhere. I wish you all the best -- it's not a pleasant responsibility to carry out but you're the one in the moral and ethical position to prevent a possible calamity for her or others.
Do you drive her car? POA, if sell it. Disable it. Then when she tries to drive it it won't run. Tell her u will put it in the shop. Find a place to put it till u sell it, if POA says u can sell. When she asks about the car, tell a fib. Trying to find a part. Needs more work.
Your Aunt should not be on the road.
.haven it hauled off to junk or sell it..u can maybe park it at a friend's house maybe she'll forget about driving. If she gets caught without a license no matter how old you are she can be arrested and put in jail and that would be her death sentence. If she b****** and moans and groans about it then maybe set up some sort of transportation services ..maybe her insurance will help pay for rides to go to the doctor or even pay privately on occasion to go out shopping if she's able to do that. There's many ways you can save her and others lives.. you need to do it..now