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My husband says he wants to leave, but he would need to take his mom, too. I'm tired of the threats of him leaving. I try and try and I feel like nothing I do is good enough. Is this normal?
Lostinthemix, We know that you have been having to deal with this negative situation for awhile.
First your husband wanted his Mom to live with the two of you and now he wants to move out of the house and take his Mom with him?
Oh, Oh, I just re-read your post: So NOW your husband wants to move out of the house and NOT TAKE HIS MOM WITH HIM? That's funny! He can't stand his own Mom so he wants to move away from her!
However, it is also NOT FUNNY because he wants to move away from his Mom AND HIS WIFE. Since when did your status change from WIFE to UNPAID CAREGIVER?
You need to tell hubby that if HE LEAVES, HIS MOM LEAVES WITH HIM!! No, ifs, ands, or buts!
MIL is NOT your responsibility. Why isn't your husband looking for a place for his Mom to move to instead? Because he feels guilty about bringing her into his house and now just 9 months later, he wants her out of his house. So he is blaming you and expects you to take care of MIL.
I haven't had to deal with in-laws, so I don't have a lot of good suggestions for you. Let's get your post back on the first page again.
I know that you have had a hard time since your MIL moved in with you and your husband in Nov 2017. Are both your husband and MIL complaining about how you are taking care of her? Who is doing the actual physical care of your MIL--your husband or you? And if you are the one who is taking care of his Mom, who is going to take care of her when he takes her with him? Not you! So maybe, there is a "silver lining" to the threat?
We have a thunderstorm and I need to stop before the lights go out again. God Bless!
Unfortunately it is all too normal. This world seems to stray further from having sacred marriages every day. I am divorced myself but luckily there were no children or other family members that suffered from the separation. My wife wanted to leave and I did everything I could for her not to. Some people just aren't happy with themselves and they blame others. Your husband will more than likely realize he made a mistake, but by then, it will be too late. Don't sell yourself short. There are plenty of people out there willing to have a happy and healthy relationship. Best of luck.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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What can you do? Money is involved. Old grudges are involved. Parents terrible behavior in the past...
I don’t trust any of my relatives. Except mom and my daughter.
First your husband wanted his Mom to live with the two of you and now he wants to move out of the house and take his Mom with him?
Oh, Oh, I just re-read your post:
So NOW your husband wants to move out of the house and NOT TAKE HIS MOM WITH HIM? That's funny! He can't stand his own Mom so he wants to move away from her!
However, it is also NOT FUNNY because he wants to move away from his Mom AND HIS WIFE. Since when did your status change from WIFE to UNPAID CAREGIVER?
You need to tell hubby that if HE LEAVES, HIS MOM LEAVES WITH HIM!! No, ifs, ands, or buts!
MIL is NOT your responsibility. Why isn't your husband looking for a place for his Mom to move to instead? Because he feels guilty about bringing her into his house and now just 9 months later, he wants her out of his house. So he is blaming you and expects you to take care of MIL.
I haven't had to deal with in-laws, so I don't have a lot of good suggestions for you. Let's get your post back on the first page again.
We have a thunderstorm and I need to stop before the lights go out again. God Bless!