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She is a diabetic and has never seen a specialist. She relied on her primary doctor for these meds. She is in poor health and Dad is having trouble getting her to bathe, eat, test her sugar. Dad is also not in good health. He had a heart attack 6 years ago and is on medicine to help control his blood pressure. He uses a cane because of his back issues. If anything happens to Dad, I cannot care for Mom. She has always been a bit bipolar and the disease has made it even more so with her demands. I do have medical POA on both of them, but if Dad goes into the hospital, I don't know what to do. Should I contact a social worker now to figure out what needs to happen? Or should I contact an elder care lawyer.

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I have access to their bank accounts and literally they have no assets.  Just a mobile home that is considered property and it is 30 years old.  Dad will  not move her to long term care.  He would rather die first and that just may happen.  I guess I will contact a eldercare organization and get advise on obtaining a lawyer, expanding my POA.  Dad is 86, Mom is 84
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You don't tell us the ages, but no matter the age issues, the health issues will soon enough bring this to being a problem whether your Dad is living or not. I don't see how he can carry on a lot longer with all of this. It is good that you have settled in your mind as to what you CANNOT do, because many people spend a lot of time worrying that issue, and end making an almost impossible decision to care for an elder in the home when, had they thought about this in advance, they would have understood that for them it could not work.
You are power of attorney. Is that for financial as well as health? Do you know what assets your parents have? It may be time to move to assisted living now for them both if this can be afforded. If not the move, dependent on her health status to assisted living or to nursing home will happen if your father can either no longer care for her at home, or your father dies, leaving your mother. With her severe diabetes, which, specialist of NONE, WILL take kidneys, heart and other systems one at a time, Mom may actually preceed your dad.
This will be with her assets, or with medicaid.
Are you able to discuss this with Dad. Find out about getting a DPOA in place for financial management so you can make decisions as needed. Basically your post tells us where you are at, and tells us you recognize where you are going. Hopefully no placement need be done now, during covid times, as it is so much compounded in complexity. Wishing you good luck going forward.
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You should have financial POA too. This is something I don't think you can deal with until it happens. If its getting too much for Dad then he should see a lawyer well versed in Medicaid. Dad needs to protect his half of the assets. That way, Moms share can be spent down and then Medicaid applied for. Dad will be the Community Spouse and will not be made impoverished. He can have Mom placed now or wait till a hospital stay where rehab is offered. Mom can be evaluated while in rehab for longterm care. Where I live, they are one and the same. So if the evaluation shows she needs 24/7 care then she just transfers to the NH side.
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