What can I do? She has fallen, accuses me of making her fall when I try to help. She clearly has some form of dementia, holding babies, calling her dad (dead 50 years) repeating the same question, event 100 times, thinks her sisters house is right next door. We sold her house, she agreed. Now denies it all.
where do I start? She does not have money for assisted living
Next step is diagnosis. As POA you are allowed to speak with her doctor or with APS to find out how to get her transported for proper diagnostic workup. If this is to hospital, then I would enlist the help of social workers at once to get her evaluated for placement. She will be self pay for some time, so hopefully will be accepted by a good memory care. She may be needing evaluation for anything from UTIs to dementias, and she may require medications.
I wish you the best.
how one day your sweet little Mother turns from joyous to telling us "I hate you, you have ruined my life". I'm not crazy, you just want my money.
the next morning saying I love you girls! Don't know what I would do without you helping me!!
her net worth less that $100 thousand from her home!
nobody would put up with that, if it wasn't for LOVE.
Evening time is a common time for distress. Fatigue, changes in vision making shadows appear strange & frightening, dehydration, many different causes. Sometimes if no other reason found but cognitive decline/dementia it gets labeled 'Sundowner Syndrome'.
just overwhelming!!
There is usually a 5 year look back in order to get Medicaid .
Have you considered Medicaid for a NH placement?
Ask her doctor for calming meds to help her in the evenings.
See a certified elder attorney to help get mom placed.
If this is new behavior be sure to have her checked for a UTI as the symptoms can mimic dementia.
I’m sorry she and you are so stressed.