In the last couple of months my mom has become mean and hateful. She says mean things to me and our granddaughter (more to me). She cussing's at me, tells me I need to ask her permission before I do anything in "her house." It really hurts my feelings. That's not my mom. Out in public she acts sweet and nice, behind closed doors, she can be evil. I know by us moving in, we have invaded her privacy, peace and quite. What can I do besides find somewhere else to live?
It's hard, I don't want to hurt my mom, her personality is different, I'm sure having us there is different for her as well. I have talked to about us being there, she said she likes us there, I'm not so sure. She keeps back to when I was growing up, things have changed since the 70's. I love her very much, the last thing I want to do is hurt her. I'm looking for a place to move. I will have a talk with her. Thank you
But I see where ur coming from. Moms behaviour is not her. Maybe she feels she is losing her independence. Maybe she likes her privacy. Like said, you may have to sit down and have a talk when grandaughter is not around. Maybe ask Dr. what he thinks. Walking on egg shells is not fun either.
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I'm worried something is going on with her medically. She doesn't talk about how she is feeling. She just gets mad and blows. I love my mother very much, I don't want to ruin our relationship. I appericate her being there and letting us come stay with her. Where we live it's hard to find housing. I know everyone is right, that we differently need to move. Thank you
If your concern is that there is something wrong with mom because of what seems like a personality change having a conversation with her about the situation, laying your cards on the table so to speak should give you a better idea. You know your mom but I'm guessing if her attitude changes after the conversation it will be because the burden of not knowing how to tell you it's just not working for her has been lifted and if it doesn't change and she is still harsh or gets worse even then maybe a check up is in order. But it isn't just about you and mom, as you know, your granddaughter is affected here and you don't want her relationship with her great grandmother harmed by all of this either.
You have turned her life upside down and you aren't taking responsibility for that. It's just, oh yea, I know, but she's evil. That you said what you did, makes your motives evil in my view point.
So, no you don't have your big girl panties on, a big girl moves out of her mommies house and takes care of her own family and responsibilities.
hasn't paid rent or anything else for about 18 years. How pathetic!
That's what you call taking advantage of someone. I agree with some of the others. It's time to put on your big girl pants and become responsible for your own needs.
Time to put your big girl panties on and get a life and home of your own.
To continue to subject your granddaughter to so much upset is inappropriate and you need to find a place where you can raise her without all the tension.
There are always 2 sides to a situation, what would your mom tell us about her late 50s daughter moving into her home with her grandchild?
A move to your own place will be healthier for everyone.