I'm trying to help my hypochondriac mother, she is abusive, mean, stubborn and I'm falling apart. Where is help I can't find it, I've begged social workers, called every agency can think of. Finely one agency called me back. We were put on a two year list. I'll be dead by then.
If there isn't a UTI, time for Mom to see her primary doctor to see what meds are available that would help calm her down. It is worth looking into for your own sanity.
And don't be afraid to check with your own primary doctor regarding calming meds for yourself. I could kick myself for all those years that I refused to take anything :P
Could you tell us a bit more about what is going on? Like, how old is your mother, where is she living and where are you living, what sort of help does she need?