I no longer want to be my dad's power of attorney. I never asked to be put in that position, and it has been nothing but a thankless job that has separated me from my siblings and has taken valuable time away from my own family.
I feel like I have been taken advantage of by my siblings and the rest of my family, and am the only one that seems to give a damn about what happens to my dad, good or bad.
I have 4 living siblings, 2 live within 5 miles of me and my dad, and one that lives about 150 miles away and another that lives in California. Every since my mom died last February, it was revealed to all the living siblings that myself and my brother that lives in town are the named Power of Attorneys for my dad. Since that time, the 3 other siblings have shown jealousy, anger, and resentment toward me. They refuse to help my dad and complain that I'm doing everything to suit myself and not them or my dad. When I ask for help with him, the answer is that they're too busy and live out of town so there's nothing they can do.
Well, I'm done. I have my own family to take care of. I feel horrible for my dad, but I can't continue to care for him on my own.
I live in Colorado and need to know what I can do to resign myself from this position.
If you give up the poa you are giving up the power to direct his care as you see fit, can you imagine having to go begging to one of your sibs to spend his money to buy those Depends?
I like all of your suggestions and am feeling so much better knowing there are options out there, and that I'm not trapped and unappreciated. I've decided my siblings, although from the same womb, are inconsiderate and self-absorbed people. My sibling in CA, recently posted about a $1,000 bottle of wine, and her two-week wine trip; needless to say, she hasn't been to see our dad since last spring because she can't afford to stay in a hotel and rent a car while she's here. She won't stay at my house because she doesn't like my dogs...ugh, see here I go again. By thinking of these things, I get so damn mad.
At any rate, my feelings are so scrambled because I feel bad for my dad, yet, I'm angry toward my siblings for either not helping at all, or refusing to provide any kind of financial support. What's more, I want to spare any dignity that may be left for my dad by not having to change his Depends every time he visits my home or I take him out to dinner. It's getting harder and harder. I could go on and on, but it only depresses me more.
I want to make someone else responsible for my dad, I don't want to do it alone any longer. 😢