Eventually, he’s going to need be moved out of that facility. The doctor said he needed to be in an all men facility, but there’s not one around here. I want to give them his Social Security check, which will cover his expenses there, and let them be responsible if something happens and they have to move him. There are four of them. They don’t seem to understand what’s going on with his mind mentally. I will keep insurance on him through his job and I could pay all the co-pays for his medical. If they just take care of the facility side of things if he requires a transfer and make the plans using that money to move him. I get a retirement check from his job, but they don’t need it. They have plenty with the Social Security. Would I still be responsible for him if he moved to a new facility and it was more money?
I would see an elder law attorney. Take all information regarding assets and how they are held with you to your appointment. Also be honest with this attorney as to your feeling that the children seem to have little understanding of all this; it may be wiser to hire a Licensed Fiduciary to handle things. They are specially trained and knowledgeable. Elder Law Attorneys are often familiar with the best of them in your area, as they typically work with them in the court system when they do work with elders and disabled who have no family to function for them.
Best of luck to you.