She is 96 and lives at home, I need someone that will live with her and take care of her. She can't walk and she needs help getting bathed, giving her meals and drinks, changed and meds twice a day. She lives in great falls VA. She also has a maid that comes on weekdays so there will be little housekeeping. Any takers or advice ?
Makes no sense.
"Carers available now, Prices from just £745* per week."
*US$ 949.28 at today's exchange rate.
How little was the pay you had in mind?
What is your assessment of the hours and skills involved in performing this role satisfactorily?
Had you in fact reconciled these factors?
Calculate this amount. Say 5 hours/day x $15/hr x 30 days. You get $2,250.
Now, how much would you charge that person in rent for living at your place? Say $800 including utilities. The difference is what you should pay.
However, can your aunt be left alone? Given your aunt's health, not able to walk, sounds like someone has to be there 24/7. The cost to have someone there 24/7 is way more than you would pay at a nursing home.
Something else to think about when you have a stranger living with your aunt. Will that person abuse and neglect the aunt, steal from her, move other people in with them, do drugs, etc. And when you want that person to move out, if he/she won't, then you have to go through the whole process of evicting him/her.
I cannot think of a single soul who would take on the souls sucking job of FT caregiving for an elderly person they don't know.
Just setting up such an arrangement would be daunting, and you should utilize the services of an attorney in establishing a legitimate "business" arrangement.
And would you WANT somebody who is so free and easy to be available 24/7 to be the kind of person you'd hire?
I worked for the one of the country's largest home-health companies. Pay was a joke, but that aside, they DID have me bonded, insured and "had my back" so to speak.
If you do not have willing family (I'm thinking a responsible college student who needs a place to live & some cash in exchange for the care she'd be giving) then I would go through a reliable agency.
I know you're trying to "kill two birds" here and it could work out fine--but cross your t's and dot your i's. Everything needs to be legal and written out and discussed.
People you'd think would NEVER cross you or screw you over can, in fact, become the biggest trials you've ever encountered.
Honestly, sounds like auntie's needs are far more than you indicate. She probably needs 24/7 care in an ALF. Probably doesn't want to go---but sadly that is what happens when we "live too long". (I don't intend for that to sound mean. But, with my MIL and Mom both turning 89 this year and watching their slow slide into senesence---heart breaking.