Taking care of my best friend and roommate now for over 3 years but the last 6 months has been incredibly difficult filled with constant anxiety and stress. So 88-year-old veteran has been on a downward spiral since pneumonia and then covid and was in the hospital for 4 months out of the last 6 months. I took care of my grandmother until she passed away but we had hospice then my uncle was in charge I was just the caregiver their full time but hospice came every day. Now I'm in the same situation with my friend Jim and he's getting worse every day. I am have a hard time getting to eat now for the last 3-4 weeks and last week he started throwing up everything... On top of everything else he's a VA hud- recipient and if he passes then that leaves me homeless because I have no income and no savings after 2 years of taking care of him constantly we just live off of his income from social security. Just trying to figure out how to deal with this on a daily basis is exhausting and I really don't get any help from anybody... Any comments would be greatly appreciated I can't seem to find anywhere to even get paid to take care of him except for social security and that of 4 to 6 months before they give you a no decision so I'm really not sure you know what to do but...,
His VA hud-vash social worker is absolutely positively incredibly worthless and she's a senior something or other... I just despise all government agencies with every ounce of my being they are so effing worthless....
Not every resident of a shelter is a homeless, drug addict scumbag. That is a very haughty judgement when you yourself are risking homelessness.
Nor does every patient in a nursing home just die alone because some mean person put them there. I don’t think you can give him the care he needs, and no one person can. But a hospital or hospice setting could!
You are in a situation that is going to end badly for you. You’d be foolish to not start planning ahead for yourself now.
Good luck!
You are correct that, at 88, this is self-limiting. When he passes you will have to go to a shelter.
I would call APS to visit to advise you. He may require placement if you cannot continue in care. And you may need guidance to a shelter and to any programs available to help you get on your feet.
I wish you good luck, but getting yourself in this position had this inevitable outcome at the moment it began. I am so very sorry. Had you at the least been married you would have had perhaps some rights as to benefits or housing. As it stands you really have nothing.