He has home care nurses and therapy coming in but that is not enough his doctor has written a letter for 24 hour care we are not asking for that just help. It just my sister and I taking care of him, He was the caregiver as his wife is in a wheelchair and now he needs the help.. What is out there, is there help.
thanks
Heidi
That's the most you can do I'm afraid. I know, it's hard, but the government looks at it as if he's still his own man, in charge of his own life, and, if you think about it, that's how it should be. Just because you're old, unless you've a mental issue, dementia or Alzheimer, you should be allowed your freedom still. If you're stubborn, or don't do what's good for you, it's all on you, just as it would be if you were younger. Hard on us kids...but it's the way it should be. Talk to him...
Is he on Medicare? What does he want to do? You don't mention dementia. Is this a factor? Do you and sister have families of your own to care for?
For Cooking you could try meals on wheels if you haven't already.
Not qualified for Medicaid I suppose means he has assets. Now is the time to use those for his care. Seek elder law advice to make sure you go about this in the proper manner for maximum assistance. Your local area on aging may be able to advise you of any local assistance. I'm not familiar with it but some on this website mention respite care to give you and sister a break. Your dad needs six months to regain mobility? Realistically you probably need longer than six months to get dad back in charge of his household if then. Make a big pot of soup. Get as much rest as you can and call Area on Aging and find a qualified elder lawyer. It's good your dad is mending. It's good you have a sister to help.