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My sister is POA, I started caring for mom, dad, challenged sister and moms friend. I was getting Money for groceries, some reimbursement for med co-pays and transportation. I did not pay rent or utilities now, Now mom passed I am still caring for dad, sister and moms friend. I manage dads meds and take everyone to appointments, I cook clean and my husband manages repairs and maintenance on the property. I just received a letter from my sister that I will now be responsible for 1/2 the utilities, and the groceries. She will be giving me an allowance of $1,400 month. This is to pay for everyones food and necessities. (not including me and my husband). I am pretty much only getting $564.00 a month roof over my head. There is nothing in writing that the house will be going to me when dad passes. So now I am just a sitting duck that I worry every day that if I do not do what she says she will throw us out and sell the house, Dad will go to a home, my sister a group home, and moms friend a home. I do not know what to do \, but I do know that this is not fair. I gave up my entire life for 3 years to care for everyone. The last year my mom was bed bound and on home hospice. I checked into the compensation for home caregiving to family and it equated to $25-$30 an hour, which comes out to approximately $420 a day and that is only putting hours from 9:00am to 11pm 7 days a week. With those figures it would be precisely $2,940 per person, per week. And it would even be more because I need to bath my cognitively challenged sister. I think that I am being used, what should I do? Should I confront her and bring in a family law attorney?
How old is your Dad? Do you know how much money your Dad has to continue paying for care into the future? The bulk of it is probably tied up in the value of the house.
How old is your sister? How much income is your sister getting (is it SSDI? If so, it's not very much).
What about the friend? What's her monthly income? What kind of savings does she have to pay for her care? How old is she?
There's the tension between what the care is worth and what the people are *able* to pay.
You can have a mature discussion with your sister without "confronting"... you may not know all the facts so you'll need to ask and then you need to diplomatically let her know the deal she is getting but that you can't realistically live on it.
In the corporate world when you aren't offered what you think you're worth (or you think you can get more) then you make a counter offer. If they decline the counter offer, you move on.
Your sister has a responsibility to make the money last since those people can live on for many more years requiring ongoing care. Unless all 3 of those people are filthy rich there's no way they can afford $2940 per person per week. If your sister starts paying you that what will happen when (not if) they all run out of money to pay for care? Your Dad will have to sell the house to go into a facility and then eventually apply for Medicaid; your sister will go to a facility on Medicaid and so will the family friend. You and your husband be out no matter what.
So, if you wish to continue working in this arrangement you'll need to negotiate with your sister to get closer to a livable compensation for you that her 3 charges can afford over the long-term. If you can't live with what she eventually offers then you should quit and find other jobs.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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How old is your sister? How much income is your sister getting (is it SSDI? If so, it's not very much).
What about the friend? What's her monthly income? What kind of savings does she have to pay for her care? How old is she?
There's the tension between what the care is worth and what the people are *able* to pay.
You can have a mature discussion with your sister without "confronting"... you may not know all the facts so you'll need to ask and then you need to diplomatically let her know the deal she is getting but that you can't realistically live on it.
In the corporate world when you aren't offered what you think you're worth (or you think you can get more) then you make a counter offer. If they decline the counter offer, you move on.
Your sister has a responsibility to make the money last since those people can live on for many more years requiring ongoing care. Unless all 3 of those people are filthy rich there's no way they can afford $2940 per person per week. If your sister starts paying you that what will happen when (not if) they all run out of money to pay for care? Your Dad will have to sell the house to go into a facility and then eventually apply for Medicaid; your sister will go to a facility on Medicaid and so will the family friend. You and your husband be out no matter what.
So, if you wish to continue working in this arrangement you'll need to negotiate with your sister to get closer to a livable compensation for you that her 3 charges can afford over the long-term. If you can't live with what she eventually offers then you should quit and find other jobs.