I think MIL is realizing that no one is going to visit her because she’s been a terrible person to everyone her whole life.
I still feel bad, though she doesn’t deserve my sympathy. Still must be a hard reality knowing no one thinks highly of you enough to even come visit.
When she makes comments to me, I tell her to take it up with her family. Blood family that is.
I was only family to her when it was convenient or she was using me to get what she wanted. I feel no obligation or guilt to visit her.
This is more of just a rant. I wanted your thoughts on if you’ve experienced a toxic person complaining no one comes to visit them.
Some folk get plenty of visitors yet are still the grump "they never stay long" etc
Other share jokes with staff & stories with other residents & are happy in their day.
Looking at one's life is the Last Task: one can look back with regret or pride.
i like that. i try to live my life, as much as i can, in an honorable way.
Basically what I’m saying to her is, I have no guilt or regret. I sleep good at night
And I think there may be 10 people who would visit her, I'm not one.
She was miserable and nasty all her adult life and sent me packing several years ago.
As sad as I would feel that she has brought this on herself ( the loneliness and isolation) SHE BROUGHT IT ON HERSELF by being nasty and cutting to everyone but her daughter and her kids. No inlaws, no neighbors, nobody.
The other day my DH said "I am thinking we don't need a funeral when mom dies. It seems like such a waste of time. She hates everybody and has outlived all her family (sibs and such).
I said "Your call. I'm not 'allowed' to go anyway.
No dementia. Just a nasty person. When there is all this love surrounding her that she shoves away with both hands.
Just my opinion …
I did this for my father because I was his POA. I did not visit him very often in the nursing home. He didn't visit up very often when we were kids and really didn't pay much attention to any of us.
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