90 yr old mother alcoholic. Mom lives in a senior facility- not assisted living. My sister and I visit daily and buy her personal needs. Mom has always had a glass of Brandy as a night cap of which dr approved. However- to make a long story short- mom started losing weight, complaining of memory loss. After a clean bill of health and a family meeting we realized she was using several family members and friends to purchase brandy. Good lord- we realized she's consuming a lot. I was elected the "voice" and confront a mom. We had an awesome conversation- so I thought. I just need some feedback- She is mentally competent but I don't want to enable. Do I take the chance she gets angry and finds a friend to buy anyway- or keep my mouth shut? At this point I fear she may fall and since I have the medical poa- could I be liable for her poor choice?
You are also not responsible for her drinking. You can choose to not participate in her consumption by refusing to buy her booze but you are unable to change her or her behavior or her drinking. You don't possess that kind of power. None of us does. You are also unable to control what she does when you're not looking (like getting friends to buy her booze).
I understand your concern but at her age she's not likely to make any major life changes (like quitting drinking). The elderly are at risk for alcohol abuse believe it or not. It's a coping mechanism.
All you can do is be a good daughter and it sounds like you're already doing that.