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My relationship is strained and on the verge of ending after 10 plus years. My partner resents the time I spend at the hospital and resents my mother who is in the hospital. I don't know what to do.
Give husband some on his own time and some exercise time. Same for self if you can squeeze it in. I do mopping and sweeping with squats now and walk for 10min. or lift my feet whenever I can. Time with husband? At least talking on the phone can help. Very rough time though!
Hi Mythos: I just this week told him i never realized how much i love him until this situation with Alzheimers started. He makes everything easier for me. Then, before i know it, I'm worried about the day i might lose him. caregivers have a lonely job, but a real man remains by his wife's side no matter what! What makes him think he may not have a problem like yours and need your love and help too.
I hardly get to spend any time with my husband of 35 years. Mom won't let me out of her sight. My husband is the greatest and always so kind. I really miss out time together. For his birthday a few days ago we managed to go to a movie. It was so great and I really laughed at the comedy. I made sure to be home by 9pm as I knew she would be lost at bedtime. Mom makes me sleep with her at night and I feel bad that I'm not in bed with my husband. He totally understands but I really miss him alot. Life takes a turn when you become a caregiver.
My husband is on PD dialysis, he is well and helps all the time. His annoyance level is great. We liked to travel a lot. But with mom we cannot. But we also are waiting for a call to get a new kidney, so we both recognize that long distance travel wouldn't of worked at this time anyway. Mom's dementia is getting worse and she so depends on us that I have come to think of all of this as our calling. I was not so healthy myself for a while, we are in our 60's, but have gotten through all that. After 3 years with mom, we are resigned to taking care of her. His mom is ninety and we may have her too. That is life, not easy, but we were never promised it would be. I am just so lucky to have Steve as I have no other brothers or sisters either. I am grateful he is still working and all our bills are paid.
I was so glad to see this post. So far, so good with my husband and his patience. I think he gets more aggrevated at me than my Mom because I am always so tired and fall asleep when I set down and some days I don't get a whole lot done. My Mom is nosy and we have no privacy whatsoever. So when we talk is when we go to bed at night and then usually fall asleep in the middle of a conversation. She thinks she has to know and see everything that we do. We try to have a date at least once a week and sometimes she may not be doing as good as I would like for her to be so that I could leave for a little while, but I do not want to say no when my husband suggests we go somewhere or do something, because we have always been goers and doers and this has been a rough and tough adjustment for both of us. It is taking a toll on me in every way. I pray with all my heart that it doesn't take a toll on my marriage because I have given up everything to take care of my Mom and I certainly don't want to lose my marriage, but it is the most stressful thing ever on a marriage. Best of luck to you!
It is hard, we have a very strong marriage. Taking care of Mother is not the real problem. The stress and strain on both of us comes from my two sisters who think they can camp out here and watch TV under the pretense of helping Mom. Limits have been set, yet they continue to push, be rude and disrespectful. I truly wish I was an only child.
My relationship is strained as well. I can't do everything I used to do any more and my husband gets annoyed that he has to help out.
How long has your Mom been in the hospital? It doesn't seem reasonable for him to resent something so much that it's about to end you marriage.
Have you thought of doing some of the things we do when our kids are young to keep a marriage strong? My husband and I have a date night. Funnily my Mom (in Assisted Living) always wants to come. She doesn't get that we need time alone. She says I seem him all the time. I do, but never to just sit, relax and talk.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
I just this week told him i never realized how much i love him until this situation with Alzheimers started. He makes everything easier for me. Then, before i know it, I'm worried about the day i might lose him. caregivers have a lonely job, but a real man remains by his wife's side no matter what! What makes him think he may not have a problem like yours and need your love and help too.
Tonio999
How long has your Mom been in the hospital? It doesn't seem reasonable for him to resent something so much that it's about to end you marriage.
Have you thought of doing some of the things we do when our kids are young to keep a marriage strong? My husband and I have a date night. Funnily my Mom (in Assisted Living) always wants to come. She doesn't get that we need time alone. She says I seem him all the time. I do, but never to just sit, relax and talk.