Meeting with a Medicaid planning specialist today. Is it reasonable to pay someone $1,500.00 to do medicaid planning? Finally decided to place my mother and mother-in-law into assisted memory care facility. I want to do the right thing and want them to have quality care. I also need to get back into the full-time workforce, after being out three months. I appreciate all the support and tough answers I received on this site. I am finally realizing that I can't care for my mom and my mother-in-law in my home any longer and have a descent life. Caregiving is sooooooo difficult. I have been able to work the last five years, while caring for my mother-in-law, (having hired HomeInstead Senior Care, and having her attend the Christian Health Care Adult Daycare program) but there were too many other demands in the evenings and weekends. I took my mom in, (who has more physical, than cognitive issues) and quit my job to care for both, but I am now BURNED OUT. I need lots of prayers and support as I place them in a long term memory care facility. I also need a new job, since I cannot return to my teaching position in Jersey City. I need some positive helpful advice. Thanks.
1 - My mother 92 who lives by herself in a home 13 miles awar. I take care of any living problems and pay her living bills.
2 - My mother-in-law who lives with me and has dementa.
3 - My wife who had a stroke in 2000 that limits her physical and mental.
I am the only one who can drive and I regulate all meds ( over 32 in all )
I am retired, however, I had one thing when I was working I do not have now. When I was working, I had at least 8 hours a day away from the complaints and problems. Now I pop sleeping pills to escape for a few hours. I am burned out, and can see no light at the end of the tunnel. I did find two retired nurses that sit with my mother 4 hours on Monday and 4 hours on Friday. That gives her some one to talke to. To all you who caretake someone, good luck and find a way to get away for a few hours each day. God Bless