So my nana was completely okay before my tata passed away in 2012. Four years later she is still grieving. Completely understandable, but she should be somewhat better right? And I thought she was okay. But she has been doing very odd stuff within the last couple of years. During the summer of 2013, I would wake up in the middle of night with her just standing in the middle of my bedroom, staring at me. I would wake up because she would be giggling. This happened on multiple occasions and, well, it did annoy me considering I have trouble falling asleep to begin with. In 2014 or 2015, she said she had a dream where God was telling her that she was originally created to be an angel, but she was sent to earth because her and my tata were soulmates. Now she is claiming she is an empath, where she can feel other people's emotions and sometimes hear their thoughts. She says that's why people like her so much, why they feel comfortable sharing personal details about themselves with her despite being a stranger. There is a whole lot of information about empaths online, but I am still rather skeptical. Yesterday, she claimed to see my tata standing right next to my neighbor's vehicle. Right after that incident, she handed my brother her guns because she was afraid to have them nearby. Of course my family and I assumed that she might have suicidal thoughts because she never had problems with the guns before (we keep them for safety because my cousin has broken in and stole a bunch of our belongings since she was/is a drug addict). She seems to think she has a very powerful mind. She said when she was a teenager she saw a raven fly by and she somehow left her body and was the raven for a few minutes. She claims it was a scary experience and hopes to never go through that again. She also claims to have seen the spirit of her grandmother "rise" and she knew that her grandmother was going to die that night, which her grandmother did. A part of me believes she is just gifted, but another part of me believes that she might be insane. After she saw my grandfather yesterday, she lied that my brother said it was probably her new medication that was causing her to hallucinate. She claimed he said that because he is a nurse so he has experience with medications and its symptoms, but he never said that. I guess she was banging on my stepmom's door and when my stepmom opened it, my nana was just mumbling about different things. Right after that she handed her guns to my brother and was saying that she needs to have all our family and family friends right here, right now. Then she called my dad, told him she was moving out and he was confused of course. He comes home a few hours later so he can talk with her, she's confronting him, telling him he is controlling and it's all his fault. He can be controlling sometimes (more overprotective, if anything) and he does get random bouts of rage but always apologizes afterwards and even then he doesn't get super mad (only yells) but he has PTSD. My grandmother was making out my dad to be this horrible guy, but she just didn't want to talk about herself and about the help she really needs to seek out. We want her to get help. We took her to the hospital just a month or two ago because she had a nervous breakdown and the doctor even advised to seek out a counselor. But she insists that talking to a professional won't bring back my tata, which is true but right now I am pretty much her therapist. She just switched doctors and her new doctor did take her off Zoloft and back on Prozac, could this be the reason why she saw my tata? For the record, she does get panic attacks and that's why she is taking the Prozac (also has a case of PTSD because she is traumatized from taking care of my grandfather when he was gravely ill). She's packing her bags and going to move in with her boyfriend. However, I think she really needs to seek out medical help but I truly don't know how to get the help she needs if she is not going to comply. She is only 64 years old. I'm sorry if this is so jumbled up, there is just so much to mention.
I forgot to mention this in the first post, but she almost overdosed on her heart medicine back in 2012 shortly after my grandfather’s passing. My mother was visiting at the time, and apparently she cut up some bitter melon and my nana accused my mother of putting a ton of her heart medicine in there because the melon taste would have disguised the medicine’s taste. She was basically saying my mom was trying to kill her. The doctor at the hospital claimed that had I called 911 any later, she probably would’ve fallen into a coma so she must have consumed a lot of medication.
About my nana’s boyfriend: he’s a nice guy for the most part and is a little slow due to being a terrible car wreck about 15/16 years ago. Apparently his heart stopped three times and it’s a miracle that he is alive right now. From what I have seen, he’s a bit controlling. Because my nana has such a small appetite now, she doesn’t eat a whole lot but he will literally force a spoonful of food into her mouth despite her saying “I’m full.” I think she just has a whole lot of pity for him. They go way back, she was best friends with his mother back in the late 70s/early 80s (there is only a 12 year difference between my nana and her boyfriend by the way). So she sees a whole lot of her best friend in him and then there’s the car crash. She claims he doesn’t know how to take care of himself and he needs her. They have been together for a little over a year now. They visited each other last year after not seeing each other since she was in her mid-20s and him a teenager. Then a couple of weeks later, he says he loves her and she says she loves him and from then on, they’ve been saying that they are married.
Grapes and peanuts is her go-to food because she claims that’s all she needs to receive the proper amount of nutrients. I know this can’t be true, but at least she does eat dinner sometimes. I spoke with her about two weeks ago about maybe trying other snacks. She agreed on peanut butter jelly sandwiches, as long as I got the kind of bread that is heavy and contains seeds and extra crunchy peanut butter.
She does not want help. She would not agree to me taking her to the doctor and speaking to him about her odd behavior. Should I just get his number and speak to him there? I know that’s sneaky, but I just do not know what to do.
Thank you all for your help, this is greatly appreciated.
Humans actually do a lot of magical thinking. If we seriously think about our religions, we see it in ourselves. Spiritualists who believe in energy and special mental abilities are really not so different. It can be fun to dabble in this type things. Unless it is extreme, I wouldn't worry.
I do wonder the why of grapes and peanuts. It would be nice if you could get her to throw some daily bread and eggs and veggies into the mix. Peanuts and grapes are healthy, but not so good for staying regular. I'm surprised she isn't totally constipated.