I live with her and have told her I want to do all the cooking, cleaning, washing eye but she keeps doing things while I'm at work and I find it very upsetting. Today she carried the rubbish down a flight of stairs which she normally needs to hold on to the rail to go down but she went down holding the rubbish.
Can she set the table? Sort out the junk mail? I can't think of other seated activities now.
After having an arm in a sling for two or three weeks that arm becomes terrible stiff, to a point where it is hard to use.... chances are Mom will need some type of physical therapy to get the arm back into a full range of motion.
That happened to me when I fell and broke my upper arm. But I didn't have a cast, just a sling. Guess it depends on where the break happens. It hard enough if the break is on your primary arm, trying to write, eat, comb your hair, attempting to put on clothes, bras were next to impossible !!
I know you don't want her to get hurt but sometimes we need to just let it go.
It can be both, of course. Perhaps if her doctor told her she has to rest?
Carrying the rubbish down the stairs was not very smart but she is not going to stop.
What I would suggest is that you give her a list of things that will be helpful while you are at work but not hazardous to her.
She can dust, put laundry in the washer as long as she does not need to go down the basement steps, Bring in the mail and newspaper, pull some weeds, those sort of things she is capable of.
Does she have a medical alert button. Could you ask a neighbor to look in on her or maybe invite her for coffee