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If Mom is sitting next to you and calling, try holding her hand for a minute. It might just be she needs the reassurance that you're there.
Toddlers reach out all the time to Mom - maybe your Mom is doing the same with you.
Have you tried giving her something to hug? A teddybear, a pillow, a blanket? It might help. She could just be afraid at the moment she is calling you.
Lola, this is part of the dementia. The Alzheimer's site has lists of typical behaviors and suggested caregiver actions. Often this disease leaves the person afraid. She may just need some assurance that you are there and helping her. Conversations can turn into a loop of repetitive statements!
She wont even know that she is, In the rest homes they yell" Nurse Nurse Nurse". and thats it. A bit like a 2 yr old saying "Why" to anything you say I liken it to the doppler sounds of a dolphin, and not the start of a conversation Its hard to just bounce back a sound, but if you can think of it like that or another analogy it might help you
muffincat, that is an amazing thought. lola, I imagine this could either make you want to laugh, or cry. Maybe ask her some light questions when she 'calls,' like what did she dream about last night or what's her favorite type of sandwich. People always recommend the videos by Teepa Snow on YouTube.
My momma literally picked up her telephone and tried dialing me while I was sitting next to her in the doctors office. She was sitting on my right and another woman was sitting on my left. Me and this woman were having a conversation, just chit-chatting when I kept noticing my mother staring at the door where the nurse calls me to go in, it was odd, but mom kept staring at that door. I wasn't thinking anything about it, I figured she was watching for the nurse to come out to call me. The next thing I know she's trying to dial me on her phone. I looked over at her and I said, "Momma who are you calling?" and she said, "you". I assured her I was right here and she looked at me so pitiful and told me she felt absolutely stupid. I asked her what she was thinking and she said it just felt like a very long time that I had been in there. It was just that short time I was having a conversation with that lady that she felt afraid because I had been gone a long time. That's when I started realizing she was losing the concept of time and I knew I could not leave her by herself so that's where we are today, I can't leave her by herself even though she is in her right mind much of the time, she does not understand the concept of time. This gets worse when she's hungry, sleepy or upset about anything.
I dislike saying it, but my late mother would turn into a 2 year old. Our loved ones cannot help it. Their brains are aging. Come back on here as much as you want for your own sanity. (((Big Hugs)))
My mom (who has dementia) started calling me a lot when we got back from a vacation that she was really excited about. We were gone for only 4 days, but when we got back, the phone calls started coming at an alarming rate of speed. She now calls me at least 50 times a day to tell me that her cat needs food (I have to monitor that now, because she was feeding the cat 4 times a day and he wasn't eating it) and the she needs Fruit of the Loom underwear (which she has a ton of). She seems to be fixated on these two things, no matter how many times I show her that the cat has food and I show her the underwear every day.
It has gotten to the point that where she is calling me at 1, 2, or 3 in the morning because she can't tell night or day now. Again, this has been going on since May. At first I was answering the calls, but for my own sanity, I had to stop. She fills up my answering machine and nobody else can get through. I've missed important calls because of this. At this point I am ashamed to say that I take the phone off of the hook at night when I go to bed around 1 a.m. Then I call her in the morning. when she starts the non-stop calling I take the phone off of the hook again. I really hate to do this because I'm afraid that something terrible will happen and she won't be able to reach me. But I work from home and have to respond to customer service emails and I just can't take the constant interruptions. And I'd like to be able to get a good night's sleep before going through the whole routine again.
My Mom hasn't done this yet, but I wouldn't be shocked if she did. I can tell sometimes she calls me with no real purpose, but tries to make one up, and she's just reaching out. I'm OK with this, she doesn't want to talk long, she never was a chatter, it's only when she calls and yells at me that I have a problem...which she just did while I was typing this. Yay for yelling, at least she hung up on me before I had to hang up on her.
If she has Dementia or Alzheimer's, she may not be recognizing you. It has been some time now that my mother has failed to know me. Her face lights up and she realizes I am someone she knows but she doesn't know my name or that I am her daughter. One thing to remember....this too shall change. She will stop this and move on to something else. Pour your frustrations out to God. He will listen and understand.
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I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
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Toddlers reach out all the time to Mom - maybe your Mom is doing the same with you.
Have you tried giving her something to hug? A teddybear, a pillow, a blanket? It might help. She could just be afraid at the moment she is calling you.
A bit like a 2 yr old saying "Why" to anything you say
I liken it to the doppler sounds of a dolphin, and not the start of a conversation
Its hard to just bounce back a sound, but if you can think of it like that or another analogy it might help you
Has she been worked up by a geriatric psychiatrist for anxiety, agitation and depression?
Meds can often make a huge difference
It has gotten to the point that where she is calling me at 1, 2, or 3 in the morning because she can't tell night or day now. Again, this has been going on since May. At first I was answering the calls, but for my own sanity, I had to stop. She fills up my answering machine and nobody else can get through. I've missed important calls because of this. At this point I am ashamed to say that I take the phone off of the hook at night when I go to bed around 1 a.m. Then I call her in the morning. when she starts the non-stop calling I take the phone off of the hook again. I really hate to do this because I'm afraid that something terrible will happen and she won't be able to reach me. But I work from home and have to respond to customer service emails and I just can't take the constant interruptions. And I'd like to be able to get a good night's sleep before going through the whole routine again.
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