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I had our caregiver call and act like a daughter. Said she wasn't home right now. To go in and get a good nights sleep and come over tomorrow. She acted on the phone like she would cooperate and then still wouldn't get out of the car
This is a risk to her safety unfortunately. If it was her bedroom she wouldn't leave, so what. But the car is different. So: 1. Ensure she cannot start/move the car. Get a lawn chair and a soda, sit and wait 10 min as recommended earlier and see if that will reset her. After 2x of that, then 2. Call the non-emergency police line and advise them you are having a problem getting Mom to come in and see if they will send an officer out as an authority figure to convince her to go in the house. Even if they won't send anybody out, they will at least have it on record that she's acting irrational. 3. See if you can set the car alarm so that if she tries to get out it will set off the alarm and alert you. 4. Offer her a favorite treat, in the house. 5. If after all that, she still won't relent, I guess I'd call the fire department to see if they will have her assessed and possibly admitted for a 72 hour hold for mental issues. Those brawny folk will just lift her out of the car, onto a stretcher and off she goes. I'm curious how this turned out. Sounds like she's going to be a real corker as she proceeds further into her dementia or whatever is going on with her. Good luck.
This is when I would call for help. IE: police OR time to move her to a facility. IF this happened something else more extreme may happen. Find a good facility that CAN take care of situations like the one you just had :)
I know you probably have your hands full right now - but a little more info would help. where does your mom want to go or are you getting back from somewhere? Is she giving you any reasons why she wants to go wherever? Is another daughter involved - is it feasible to get her involved if this goes on for a while - instead of a pretender?
When my mother does similar things, I just look out the window and check to make sure she's okay every few minutes. I don't know what I would do if it was dark. Tired had a good suggestion. I hope it will work.
Keep a close eye on her but take the keys and leave her be for about 10 min. Then approach her like nothing happened and say were here lets go inside or something like that. If she has dementia or memory issues sometimes 10 min is enough to reset the situation.
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Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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1. Ensure she cannot start/move the car. Get a lawn chair and a soda, sit and wait 10 min as recommended earlier and see if that will reset her. After 2x of that, then
2. Call the non-emergency police line and advise them you are having a problem getting Mom to come in and see if they will send an officer out as an authority figure to convince her to go in the house. Even if they won't send anybody out, they will at least have it on record that she's acting irrational.
3. See if you can set the car alarm so that if she tries to get out it will set off the alarm and alert you.
4. Offer her a favorite treat, in the house.
5. If after all that, she still won't relent, I guess I'd call the fire department to see if they will have her assessed and possibly admitted for a 72 hour hold for mental issues. Those brawny folk will just lift her out of the car, onto a stretcher and off she goes.
I'm curious how this turned out. Sounds like she's going to be a real corker as she proceeds further into her dementia or whatever is going on with her. Good luck.