She is wheel chair bound and has moderate dementia. although she gets a sponge bath each morning, she really needs a weekly shower. the proper tools are in place to make her shower comfortable. she just doesn't believe she has an odor and doesn't like anyone to tell her anything. I try to persuade her but respect her refusals. any suggestions?
How about a bed bath? It's better than a sponge bath but not quite a shower. Many elderly people survive on just bed baths. It would eliminate the odor as well.
If it comes right down to it explain to your mom that she has an odor that's unpleasant and the only remedy is to bathe. She can do a shower or a bed bath and let her choose.