She's 98, has afib, high blood pressure. Dentist no good. Mom is very stubborn, won't believe the Dentist. Called her Cardio Doctor, he said moderate sedation could put her at risk at her age. Mom is very difficult to deal with and I'm very frustrated. I also feel she's too old for a root canal and probably won't sit that long as well. She's in an ALF and is probably healthier than most. My brother lives about 4 hrs away and I would like for him to handle this situation. I'm the only one that lives close by and we both have POA. He just tells me I'm doing a great job, but right now I don't want to handle Mom's problem. My brother visits her about 2x a year. Any suggestions.
If it were me or my 97 year old mother, I would have them pull the tooth. It would probably come out pretty easily and quickly. My mother, at 80, spent thousands at the dentist in her last year of life trying to keep her teeth, but they just kept breaking. I just lost a tooth. The dentist tells me I can do fine without it, and I can, until I get an extra 20K for an implant.
Of course it depends a lot on where the tooth is.
As dementia progresses, her oral hygiene will suffer, and it's hard for someone else to do a good job for her. My father had dentures, and they were so easy to care for.
Lots of people here have difficult parents and difficult decisions and difficult siblings. Please come back, and feel free to vent, rant and rave, complain, whine, and explode about how hard it is. We understand.