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Four years ago she fell into a deep depression while trying to take of my dad, who had cancer and dementia. My other sister in another state took her in for alittle while but it didn't work out and told me to find a ALF for mom. She has been in one ever since in my town and I have been there for her from day one. She has come out of her depression but she doesn't realize all that has to be done in order for to live on her own. She is very hard headed and gets angry easily, it's probably not the best thing but I try to avoid not getting her in that way. I feel like she will be able to cook, clean (to a point) and she is able to wash and dress by herself. Part of me feels she can do it but for how long, then what? I hate to be the one to say no. She likes to shop at thrift stores, don't mind doing that with her or any kind of shopping. She doesn't drive and her legs are alittle weak but she gets around. My husband doesn't think it's a good idea, we use to go shopping back in the day and part of me wants that again. Right now she has a roommate that she hates and just wants some peace and quiet. I am torn, I don't know what to do even though I know what she wants. I know I am rambling on but I don't feel like I have anyone I can REALLY talk to, I have four siblings but I don't have or want anything to do with them. I have till the end of September before something has to happen whatever that is, I just want some peace too.
I have to smile at this one. She wants to live independently, but she needs you to arrange it. What else would she need someone else to arrange/do for her if she got an apartment? She has people to do things for her right where she is.
I think it all depends on the reasons why they are in AL in the first place. You didn't mention why she is there, but I am assuming there are obvious reasons for her safety, etc.
What I found with my own parents, MIL, etc. is that they start to lose their reasoning abilities and are not aware of all the concerns we, as caregivers have for them. Does she have dementia? Depending on the severity, that is a huge reason to not live independently.
I found that reiterating the reasons to them, and this can be difficult; but necessary, helped them to understand the reasons why they could not live independently. Don't be surprised if your reasons are met with hostility, blame and guilt trips. It is the nature of what is happening to them. It is very sad, but when you know in your heart that they are in the right place and you are doing the best you can, it does help.
Wishing you the best with all this, and you are not alone, that is for sure. Blessings to you and take care.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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What I found with my own parents, MIL, etc. is that they start to lose their reasoning abilities and are not aware of all the concerns we, as caregivers have for them. Does she have dementia? Depending on the severity, that is a huge reason to not live independently.
I found that reiterating the reasons to them, and this can be difficult; but necessary, helped them to understand the reasons why they could not live independently. Don't be surprised if your reasons are met with hostility, blame and guilt trips. It is the nature of what is happening to them. It is very sad, but when you know in your heart that they are in the right place and you are doing the best you can, it does help.
Wishing you the best with all this, and you are not alone, that is for sure. Blessings to you and take care.