Mom is doll collector fanatic. Two rooms of her home have been taken over by this hobby and it has overflowed to other rooms as well. She used to make beautiful, intricate dresses from a slew of sample wedding gowns she purchased (over 300). Then stopped about 10 years ago. Now this is all she talks about.....making dresses once again. She still has all the supplies she needs (a basement packed and we run up and down trying to find the "right material") and an accessible sewing machine. Problem is she just can't do it any longer.....frustrations run high trying to thread the machine (she forgets how) and then misplaces the patterns she's using and can never find her pin cushion. It's a disaster. My suggestion is to remove everything that reminds her of sewing, but that would be the dolls would have to go because they are a constant reminder. And that would just never fly. Any suggestions would be helpful....we've tried diversion tactics, but nothing seems to interest her. She refuses to go to any of the senior centers for activities. She's driving my dad and us crazy. Did I mention she is very strong willed and stubborn beyond measure? Help!!
P.S. We are still working on the AL.....which I know would just put a stop to all this.
Dry herbs or specific flowers (like Lunaria, oregano, sage, artemisias) and let her choose which to use in the wreaths.
Or take her to Michael's or JoAnn Fabrics to select artificial flowers. I've never gone through that section of either store without having my spirits elevated. Even if the flowers are artificial, the beauty is so inspirational.
An even easier project is to create an arrangement in a vase. All you need is a good sized vase and flowers. No sewing involved, but she could cut out a swatch of lovely fabric to match and tie it as a ribbon around the vase.
Or find a very simple toddler pattern and let her try that. Very few pieces, straight sewing lines, no gathering or detail. Just see where it goes
What about you helping her with keeping track of items and threading the machine? Then encourage her to make lap throws or baby blankets that can be delivered to the neonatal ICU or to the AL you are hoping to get her in. She can do them as simple 2 sided throws or use scraps and sew them together randomly, which is pretty simple. Or make blankets for the local animal shelter? Lots of simple items that have a tremendous need and impact. Directing her to be helpful might be the change needed for her to switch gears. Just an idea.
Another thought, would she be willing to part with any dolls? If yes she could adopt a woman and children crisis home and make small throws and gift a doll and blanket for the little girls in the shelter, and make larger ones for the older girls who are oft times forgotten in these places.
YouTube offers many craft videos Some of them are doll related others cover other crafts that are fun to watch. Doll face makeovers, redesigning of clothes, as well as intricate finger nail art!
There are really delightful projects available in our local Walmart, that through the magic of Velcro, super glue, self stick fabric tape, iron-on appliqué and other such materials, can produce a finished product that even I am incapable of ruining, and look REALLY GOOD.
I haven’t seen any doll dresses specifically but you might find a substitute that can satisfy her creative heart without creating frustration.
I’d also try the local craft stores and dollar stores. Maybe she’d be willing to try to “help” YOU make an autumn wreath for your front door or Christmas ornaments for the Church Bazaar or how about making doll furniture (kits available) ??
If she’s willing to TRY something different, of course she’d be praised outlandishly for her project. Hopefully you can find something FUN for her!!
Sheesh! That's... $300 an hour! - as long as you concentrate and get a bit of a move on and don't drop any buttons on the floor.
Did she at least throw in the button for free?
I'm in the wrong job.
What I'd try is something simple, like the "fidget blankets". Let her select the fabric, cut it, select the thread too. You can baste it for her, and if she can't follow that using the machine (which you could also thread for her), just let her do whatever she can. Hand sewing might be easier, especially if her vision isn't that strong. (As I aged I had to remove my glasses more frequently to get a good look at what I was doing!)
It's going to be hard to balance the frustration of noncomprehension with the past benefit of accomplishment, but sometimes just handling the fabric and caressing it creates satisfaction.
Help her by putting the patterns in a place you can find, if she can't, by threading the machine needle, and by creating several different pincushions, some of which you'll keep handy for her when others can't be located.
But I do think that fidget blankets might work; there's no set pattern, stitching can be done by hand, and it doesn't matter what the finished product looks like.
My heart aches for her.
I have two thoughts. One is to disappear the gowns, sewing machine and maybe the dolls. She'll be angry, but she may be less frustrated. Tell her that they were discovered to have bedbugs or something.
The other thing you might try is, if she's having a rational spell ( they DO happen) is to show her an article about poor brides in need of wedding gowns. Does she have some charitable instincts? Would she be happy to make others happy?