My name is Haley and my mother has been staying with my soon to be husband and I for a little over a year. In jan 2014 my mother had a car accident and had to be placed in rehab. Also during that time she lost her home and was moved into my home. Now with that being said, I have a 3 year lease at the house i currently stay at and my mother is only 48. She is rude and verbally abusive to both myself and my fiance. When i moved into the house my name is the only name on the lease, my mother insisted on placing the utilities in her name. We did, but i pay them since she has no income. She smokes all day everyday, is diabetic and doesnt use her meds correctly and just wont take care of herself. There was no outstanding agreement when she moved into my home. Now i have a child on the way and there isnt enough room and she will not change. I have politely asked her to find somewhere else to go, meaning i have asked her to look for another stable home as this one will be too small for all of us and i cannot break my lease. She has since become IRATE and refuses to allow me to place the utilities in my name, and has been verbally abusive to everyone since. How can i resolve this? I cannot handle it anymore, im due in august and the house has major repairs to be done before baby gets here and she stands in the way of them.
The Lease was made between the Landlord, you, and your fiance.... no where on the Lease is your mother's name. With Mom being there, it could be in violation of the Lease unless you gave the landlord notice of a 3rd adult residing in the residence.
And does the Landlord allow smoking in the home? Vast majority do not, and if someone is smoking there the landlord could keep your security deposit and demand extra money to clean up the tobacco stains that accumulate on everything.
That would solve the issues with the utilities. In a new place, just put them in your name when you move-in.
That's kind of a hassle for you but it's something to consider. Also, moving to a new place, it could be less smoky than the place she's been smoking in all this time.
It's time for your mom to get in the system. Maybe she'll qualify for SSDI, maybe the insurance company will cover her continued expenses from the accident. Let a social worker sort that out.
The quickest way out would be to just pack up and leave. If worse comes to worst, do that. It could impact your ability to rent your next apartment though. You couldn't use your current landlord as a reference. So, if you like where you live, first try getting mom out.
Get out and do it right! Anyone who reads your story will expect a lot more flack from your mom and perhaps even violence. This is no situation for a baby.
Stay cool. Stay on the right side of the law. Dot your Is and cross your Ts. And get out.