Mom's 75 and has had dementia for at least two years. She didn't shower twice a week when she was well and she's just about to tell everyone off and quit because she's not real motivated to begin with. She's doing her physical therapy and is a lot more with it mentally. I don't want her to give up because of a shower. I'm tired of battling the CNAs and nurses over this. Am I wrong?
If everyone in the place showered only once a week--phew--it becomes one of those "stinky" facilities we all abhor.
Also, by bathing her, the caregivers can see if she has skin issues before they become serious.
She needs to suck it up and shower.
In my humble opinion, twice a week is not asking too much. Maybe your mom would be more cooperative if you mentioned you could detect an odor about her.
I doubt that you’d find any facility willing to give up on this issue.
If she refused, they would mark her as “non-compliant“?If so, that’s pretty harsh too.
I think while a person is a resident with other folks in a shared space like rehab it’s reasonable to ask them to have two showers a week. It may be because of a standard of care they developed according to a new industry standards for best practices.
But non compliant for this? That’s too far, imo.