I take her to make a 50 / 50 will between myself and my brother but then my brother gets her to make a will that excludes me? What makes it worse is that it's to him and his wife so mif In contest I'm contesting against two people. My mothers short term memory is poor but long term is good so thats all she talks about, what happened decades ago, I'm just tring to do the right thing but my mother can be very abusive at the drop of a hat for no reason and run to my brother to change the will. I just can't sleep at night.
How is this being done? Through a lawyer or not?
It sounds as if the validity of any wills made recently would be highly questionable for several reasons: your mother's capacity, the circumstances, and the vested interests of people advising and assisting her all throw doubt on it.
Has there been a formal diagnosis of dementia, and if so when, and if not hadn't you better arrange an assessment?
Who is caring for her now? Where does she live? How is her care being paid for?