Running up credit cards knowing she doesn't have money to pay them. I have durable POA. She orders stuff thru mail, donates to all sorts of people who solicit in the mail. She is 95 years old. Right now she has missed paying on one CC for 3 months.
She lives alone because she is not able to get along with anyone else in family.She has no money left for nursing home or assisted living. She is not concerned about bills because "I will be gone and someone else can handle it".
In the case of the OP, I think I would want to find out what my responsibility was as POA, in terms of safeguarding the elder's funds.
If POAs really had all the authority we sometimes ascribe to them, no one in their right mind would want to appoint a POA!
I'm afraid that "no one is going to tell her what to do" (unless a creditor gets a court order for payment).
It sounds like this is how she has lived her life. It is too late to expect change. Manage your own affairs sensibly. Try not to be too concerned about hers.
they got. We don't know where to turn. Her words "no one is going to tell me what to do."
I really feel for you, having to watch this without authority to change it. Hugs!
It would be good if you could get control, but since there's nothing left to conserve? Well, I wouldn't sweat it myself.
You might begin looking at Medicaid for mom. With no assets, if she needs medical assistance, that's her only alternative.