I will be moving to San Antonio in the spring. I have been caregiver for mom for 5 years now. I'm taking her with me but I need to find a good physician, adult day care and a possible memory care facility for later on down the road. I don't know were to start my search. Is there anyone out there living in San Antonio or anyone who has relocated with a parent that can give me some tips?
It is better not to uproot a person with dementia unless you absolutely have to.
It is a good thing to accommodate your mother's wishes as far as you can, especially if you know them to be deeply rooted.
And as long as it is practicable, it is a good thing that you are able to remain in your current location.
But: be prepared for your mother to express abrupt, or even contradictory, changes of mind. The time will come when you will have to make decisions not only without consulting her, but sometimes in spite of her. Better be ready to start breaking those old habits! Hugs to you, and please stay in touch.