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May be time to look into assisted living options. Your sanity and your livelihood are at stake. She likely will not be happy going into assisted living, but sounds like she's not happy living with you either. As it now stands, neither of you are happy. If you put her in assisted living, at least you don't have her at your door ranting. (note: even when in assisted living, my mother still rants by telephone; but at least I have the option to not answer)
Thank you all for your insight..Not only do I not bet paid for being her primary caretaker..I left my job to care for her for a year..thinking she was really sick...now a year later..she is healthy..just a miserable old lady..I am a lawyer and probably lost $200k in the last year I have " babysat" her...I am not going to let her use me anymore...Thank you.
Creed, has your mother ever asked her sons to help her? Or is she of the old stereotype that caregiver belongs only to the daughter?
Sometimes what happens when a parent moves into a grown child's home, or the grown child moves into a parent home, the adult/child dynamics kick back in. You are once again the teenager and Mom needs to nag you about doing things. Thus, there is no adult communication. You are still the "kid" and what do you know :P
One thing to check is to see if your Mom has a Urinary Tract Infections, as those infections are tough on the elderly causing the elderly to misbehave, rant, become violent, etc. This test can be done at your Mom's primary doctor's office or at an urgent care facility. The infection can be treated.
What are your Mom's medical needs? I see from your profile that she had Depression. I wonder if she is having other issues. If not, it's not time to place your Mom into Assisted Living or even a Nursing Home. It's time for your brothers to get off their backsides and help you out, or for your Mom to hire a caregiver [which I don't think she needs unless she can't dress herself, feed herself, etc.]
Talk to her doctor about placement for her in another type of living facility and/or medication. Don't get yourself so stressed you lose control and commit some type of elder abuse.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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YES! Why is she living with YOU? Do you get paid for this?
Time for her to move on down the road to live with one of your brothers!
Sometimes what happens when a parent moves into a grown child's home, or the grown child moves into a parent home, the adult/child dynamics kick back in. You are once again the teenager and Mom needs to nag you about doing things. Thus, there is no adult communication. You are still the "kid" and what do you know :P
One thing to check is to see if your Mom has a Urinary Tract Infections, as those infections are tough on the elderly causing the elderly to misbehave, rant, become violent, etc. This test can be done at your Mom's primary doctor's office or at an urgent care facility. The infection can be treated.
What are your Mom's medical needs? I see from your profile that she had Depression. I wonder if she is having other issues. If not, it's not time to place your Mom into Assisted Living or even a Nursing Home. It's time for your brothers to get off their backsides and help you out, or for your Mom to hire a caregiver [which I don't think she needs unless she can't dress herself, feed herself, etc.]