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Can’t walk at all. All day with no help. Both siblings feel this is ok. There are resources for a caretaker however they don’t feel it’s necessary. What can I do at this point?
Jeanne, I agree. And I have had the health care nurse talk to my sisters about the situation but things continue. It’s basically out of my control since my mom is calling the shots and my siblings do what ever she wants.
Flyer, She refuses to go to a care place or board and care. She is still compatent so she’s in charge of her care. I have talked to her Dr and she said as long as she is compitant there is not much anyone can do even though she can’t get around in her own. Her Dr has talked to her about the situation but my mom refuses any outside help.
Oh yes, of course! Put emergency responders at risk having to break into a burning house to rescue the person who can't get out. That makes total sense. (not).
Start with trying to convince the sisters, perhaps involving her doctor or a social worker or someone the sisters would respect.
If persuasion doesn't work, I think I would report this to Adult Protective Services. Mother is a vulnerable adult and she needs protection from neglect.
Barb, as to your ? My mother says she dosnt want anyone bothering her so she’s says she’s fine with no help. I have asked about fire or other emergencies that could happen and was told she has a phone.
From the information you shared, I'd say this sounds dangerous. A fall or other accident while no one else is home could be fatal.
Also, if your mother is basically bedridden, there's a danger of her developing pressure ulcers (bedsores) if she isn't repositioned regularly / doesn't have a mattress that helps relieve pressure. It sounds like it would be a great idea to get some expert advice and explore having someone come in for a few hours a day at least.
Bronco15, does your Mom refuse to move to a continuous care facility? If that is the case, could be that your sisters have decided to limit her amount of care by both of them so that Mom would finally decide to move. Or is it a case where your Mom refuses caregivers? My own Mom wouldn't allow strangers in the house :(
Maybe it is time for a family meeting, and for Mom's primary doctor to give his/her option on if he/she thinks Mom can be left to care for herself during the day.
Several years ago, I had surgery that left me helpless and in bed for two days. I had to have help to reach a tray for meals. If the tray table was more than a couple of inches away from the bedside, I could not even get a drink of water. I was terrified when I was left alone in the hospital room when the nurse left the "nurse call" handset hanging on the wall behind my bed. I cannot imagine the fear and anxiety that would be caused by being left alone in a house while bedridden, even for a few minutes. I agree with the others that this is at least neglect. Maybe it's mental abuse as well.
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Start with trying to convince the sisters, perhaps involving her doctor or a social worker or someone the sisters would respect.
If persuasion doesn't work, I think I would report this to Adult Protective Services. Mother is a vulnerable adult and she needs protection from neglect.
Also, if your mother is basically bedridden, there's a danger of her developing pressure ulcers (bedsores) if she isn't repositioned regularly / doesn't have a mattress that helps relieve pressure. It sounds like it would be a great idea to get some expert advice and explore having someone come in for a few hours a day at least.
Maybe it is time for a family meeting, and for Mom's primary doctor to give his/her option on if he/she thinks Mom can be left to care for herself during the day.
How does mom feel about being left alone?
This could certainly be construed as neglect.