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Sex is the only topic on her mind. She describes things that are clearly untrue (me. With multiple sets of genitalia, all the women there have had their nipples removed and so on). Everyman she sees is engaged to her, even if she doesn’t know their names. She constantly wants to sit by any man and often her language is upsetting. I’m concerned that she will sexually harass her dining table mates by her constant graphic narrative about strange sex. She tells me almost daily that the FBI comes to talk with her about the sex going on around her and is fascinated with very detailed descriptions of the things she believes she sees. I worry that they may ask her to leave, she is private pay and receives good care, but the constant sex talk is hard to take. I’ve tried redirecting, watching tv, talking about her career, clothes…anything, but she is only focused on talking about genitals and sexual acts. Is there anything to be done? We have seen her geriatric care physician, her GP and no one has any solutions. I love her but it’s so difficult to hear this go on and on,

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My mother started this chatter also about a year before she was diagnosed with Lewy Body..such a repulsive habit. She even spread rumors about a fellow resident {90} in an AL that had an affair with the young male kitchen staff member {25} got ripped up internally and then the lady died! The lady was 90 with dementia. She also felt any man who spoke to her “wanted “ her. Now in later stage dementia this topic rarely comes up.
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I have seen this with my mom too. She was 88 when she had a stroke and the resulting dementia was such a surprise. She will be 90 next month and I continue to struggle with this continuing conversation regarding my dad (divorced long ago) and boyfriends over the years. Mom was a dazzling force of nature, now bed bound for 2 years. In mom’s case she reported she could hear child abuse through the air vents going on upstairs (there is no upstairs, and no children there) in painful detail and felt responsible to intervene. Through this site and others I learned to acknowledge her feelings but not reinforce her thoughts. “Mom that must be so hard for you. I promise there are no children being harmed here and you are not letting anything bad happen.”
The team at her care facility has experience with this topic and was able to give me some perspective.
I wish you peace in the time ahead.
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Something to discuss with the MD.
Quite common, this hypersexuality in elders.
They will have medications to try and will reassure you.
Do also discuss with the nursing home.
This is nothing they haven't seen before and they can help reassure you as well.
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I assume there’s dementia going on, and understand an unnatural focus on all things sexual can happen. There should be a medication to calm this obsessive focus. I’m surprised the doctors have not suggested this
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