Approximately four weeks ago she fell in her bathroom and fractured a bone in her femur (only broken bone in her life). She required surgery and was then transported to a skilled nursing home for recovery and therapy. Medicare recently stopped paying for her care because she wasn't progressing in her therapy. My mom is like a totally different person since the surgery. She doesn't eat, sleeps all of the time and looks terrible. If she is awake, her dementia causes her to be extra anxious. She is at the point when she is in such a deep sleep that we can't even rouse her. Has anyone ever had this problem before? My mom used to walk with a walker, feed herself and participate in crafts at her assisted living facility. Help!
She made a full recovery (she was 92 at the time this happened), is 94 now, and doing ok at the Memory Care AL she's was transferred to after the pneumonia incident. She had been living in the regular ALF bldg prior to that incident, but they would not take her back due to her decline after the hospital and rehab stay.
Just wanted to let you know that your mother's condition is not NECESSARILY permanent. It may be, but then again it may not be. It depends on a lot of things, I think. Prepare yourself for the possibility, however, that the ALF may not be willing to accept her back in her current condition...........the nurse normally comes by the SNF to do an evaluation to make that determination. If she doesn't improve enough to go back to her old ALF, she may have to stay in the SNF in their long term care section until and unless she improves. Just a head's up on that. My father was in that situation back in 2014 after breaking a hip and making the infamous 'no progress' in rehab, too. He recovered too, by the way.........so don't lose hope, ok? :)
Wishing you the best possible outcome here; I know how worrisome and stressful (and heartbreaking) all this is to witness & endure.
After the surgery, everything collapsed.
We were told that it was likely because of the anesthetic and the length of time she was “under”.
A terrible tragedy for which there was no solution. I’m so sorry this has happened to you and your family.
Sending you both a big hug! 💕
I hope that the rehabilitation center gave her time to recover from such a major bone break.
I had a dear friend that had the same break and she was never the same again. So prepare your heart for her to possibly never get any better and potentially fail to thrive.
I am sorry for your mom. What an awful situation to be in.
Strength and hugs to you both.