So although they are too old to even try and fight my aunt and uncle they just gave up because they have been through this before, two other times. They have forced my grandparents to make my aunt POA, beneficiary at the bank, will is all going to her now. My grandma has never been on his bank account or has never had access to his money as he says (or used to say). I know she's doing something evil to help him die faster because now all of a sudden he's not eating. I need help to stop them because then my grandma is going to stay without any funds or property due to my aunt. They're greedy! What or who should I contact for help?
Look up on the internet "elderly and food intake".
I know that you know that a 103 y/o will not live forever no matter his intake of food. It is normal for the very elderly to sleep almost all the time, and to take in little nourishment. In fact some live so long that they return to an almost fetal position without the ability to speak or to swallow nourishment.
Ask APS to investigate your allegations if you have PROOF of neglect.
This cannot be a matter of your "opinion" only.
It would be normal for the caregiver giving years of care to a parent to be the primary beneficiary of the will and to be POA and on all accounts as same. This is, imho, as it should be.
They DO need to keep records of expenditures, and APS can ask to see those records or ask that the court examine them. They need not show any to YOU, personally however. And as POA should NOT be sharing legal and financial things with you.
If APS decides that you either:
A) have insufficient information indicating abuse
or
B) they have looked in and see no reason to investigate further for abuse
Then I am afraid you are down to being a loving and supportive granddaughter who visits Gma and Gpa.
Your a grandchild and really not entitled to an inheritance from your grandparents if thats what ur looking for. My grands are not even in my Will. I am leaving what I have to my daughters.
I'm also PoA for my 104-yr old Aunt. Every letter she gets from the bank sends her into a tailspin and I have to re-earn her trust so she understands what I'm doing on her behalf. Please consider that your Grandparents are not interpreting the situation correctly. If the only source of your info is your Grandparents I would take it with a grain os salt. No one can be forced to change their Will and have it still be legal. I don't think a FPoA can change someone's beneficiaries...
If you're so certain your Grandparents are being financially abused then take your actual evidence to an elder law attoreny who will determine if you have a winnable case. You will have to pay for this yourself. If you lose you still have to pay the lawyer. There is no other recourse.
Your Grandparents assets are now supposed to be spent on their care, even if its coming from family members who may be sacricing a lot of their daily lives to take care of 2 very needy people. Medicaid will cover them if they run out.
How did they force your grandparents to sign the POA agreement?
Does your grandmother or grandfather have dementia? Did they understand what they were signing? Do your grandparents live in their house?
Why do you suspect abuse? At 103, your grandfather may be losing his appetite and this is why he isn’t eating. Older people do not eat as much as when they were younger.
What do you want for your grandparents? Do you feel they should be placed in a facility to receive the best care?
Do you feel that APS should be called to look into this matter?
How long have your aunt and uncle been caring for your grandparents? Have you always been concerned about them as caregivers? Is this your aunt or uncle’s parents?
Do they plan to continue to care for them or will they place them in a facility at some point in time?
Please share more details with us.