Our mother is in a nursing home in Arkansas, I'm in Pennsylvania and my brother is in NY, the 3 of us together placed a standard POA in place for the day our mother would become mentally unable to make important decisions for herself. There's no large amounts of money involved or any property, just a very simple POA is in place. The relationship is extremely strained and always has been which is unfortunate but I need to cease relations I'm afraid and my younger brother doesn't want the responsibility so I'm looking to just end the POA entirely. She's safe and being very well taken care of in the home she resides at now which is what's most important to us.
If relationships are still ‘extremely strained’, there is no need for you to stay in contact, and you resigning won’t stop her from contacting you. A POA gives you Power to act for your mother, but it doesn’t force you to do so.
If on medicaid, your job is pretty much done. POA does not obligate you to keep in touch. I had Moms NH as her payee for SS and pension that way I did not need to write a monthly check. Is it because the NH calls u about her care, etc?
I agree, get a lawyer to revoke ur POA.
I would imagine if your brother also wants to rescind his POA that your mother would then have to have another appointed. Since she can no longer appoint a POA it would be left to the lawyer or possibly the court to become her POA and they might have to become Guardian as well.
If your brother wishes to continue as POA your involvement would end and his would continue as is. I would also send a letter to the Facility where your mom resides and inform them that you are no longer POA.