He has not visited her and now that the hospital is locked down due to the virus he will not even call her. He will not answer his phone when the hospital calls him (Doctors, Social Workers, Nurses). The hospital is getting annoyed and they have started to call me. He texted a friend last night and said he is going to take mom out of the hospital and take her back to her apartment. The Doctor has told me that she needs 24/7 care and will not be discharged from the hospital, they are aware of my brothers treatment of mom. He is on Welfare, uses drugs, has used all her money. I live in the next province (in Canada) but have done everything I could for her for the last 20 years. Last week he called the nursing station and swore and threatened to sue all the staff , the Hospital as well as the Director of the Hospital. His reason is that the hospital will not give him any info however, it is because he will not answer his phone when they call him. He is angry that they will not making special arrangements for him to visit mom even though the Hospital is in Lock down.
He constantly tells me that he is in charge and I am to butt out of mom's life. The last time I visited mom at her apartment I ended up calling 911 as he assaulted me. I did not press formal charges at that time as he is mentally ill and it would have gotten mom very upset.
I hope this makes sense as I badly needed to vent. My husband is terrific but he does not want to hear about my brother any longer. It is causing friction in our immediate family and with the crisis in the world at this time I feel like I am going crazy. Any advise would be appreciated.
It's obviously not safe for your mom to be with your brother. She may have not been thinking clearly when she made him POA, or knew she needed help and saw him as her only option. Or he may have coerced her?
You may need to speak to an attorney about all that's going on, about how your brother's the POA but has so many issues plus not caring for mom, and get their recommendations.
In the US, attorneys will give free brief initial consult. If you can't afford an attorney, check if there are any legal services that you can afford available to you.
Good luck.
At least the doctors, social workers, etc know what your sibling is doing & if there is an APS where you are they should be mandated to contact them for your mom’s safety.
I’m so sorry to hear you & your mom are going through this situation & I hope everything works out for you.