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By telling him you won't be his caregiver anymore if he continues to mistreat you. You won't tolerate it. Then ask him if he'd like to set an appointment with his PCP for meds to help his temperament? If not, AL is available.
Just agreeing with Alva that it may be time to consider meds for depression and anxiety. Does he have a guy family member or friend who maybe can go into the exam room with him, to hear what's being discussed? If your Dad is too proud to deal with his PD then he may not give you accurate info about his doc appt. I used to tell my Mom that as her PoA I was there to take notes and make it easier for her to follow directions and follow-up on appts. It's ok to use "therapeutic fibs" to get our cognitivey impaired LOs to do things in their best interests.
I'm hoping that your Dad has his legal ducks in a row? He has an assigned PoA (is it you)? He has a Advance Healthcare Directive, a Will, etc.
If he's resistant to assigning a PoA, being on meds might help him be better able to see the importance of doing so.
If this is a big personality change for him it is time for a visit to doc. You will want him to be checked to a UTI and also consider, perhaps, if all else is well, a mild anti depressant for him; it can sometimes help a lot. Throw yourself upon the advice of his medical team. Wishing you good luck. It isn't, I know you understand, easy for ANYONE to live with anyone else, be it spouses, siblings, parents and children or even roommates. It tries patience in a big way. The other thing to consider is that you have moved from being basically a loving son he's proud of to being a caregiver, who is dictating how and when things happen, and giving advice. It could help to ask him for advice. Ask him something at least once or twice a day. 1. Dad, what do you think is the best way for us to make the bathroom safe for you? 2. Dad can you help me organize the tools in the basement? 3. Dad, what's the best laundry detergent, do you think? 4. Dad, which teams do you think is best tonight and why? 5. Dad, what should I cook for us; I am running out of ideas? 6. Dad, who would you elect to Secretary of State?
Just try to come up with questions for him, give his answers deep consideration. Compliment him 1. Dad I admire how determined you are. You just aren't one to sit down on the job. 2. Dad, what was the story you told me about Aunt Irma at Butchart Gardens? I can't remember it? Can you. You were so good to your sisters!
Just include him. Someone like your dad is suffering daily losses in balance, in self-automomy, it dignity. You can make it better. I guarantee it will help.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
I'm hoping that your Dad has his legal ducks in a row? He has an assigned PoA (is it you)? He has a Advance Healthcare Directive, a Will, etc.
If he's resistant to assigning a PoA, being on meds might help him be better able to see the importance of doing so.
1. Dad, what do you think is the best way for us to make the bathroom safe for you?
2. Dad can you help me organize the tools in the basement?
3. Dad, what's the best laundry detergent, do you think?
4. Dad, which teams do you think is best tonight and why?
5. Dad, what should I cook for us; I am running out of ideas?
6. Dad, who would you elect to Secretary of State?
Just try to come up with questions for him, give his answers deep consideration.
Compliment him
1. Dad I admire how determined you are. You just aren't one to sit down on the job.
2. Dad, what was the story you told me about Aunt Irma at Butchart Gardens? I can't remember it? Can you. You were so good to your sisters!
Just include him. Someone like your dad is suffering daily losses in balance, in self-automomy, it dignity. You can make it better.
I guarantee it will help.