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My 73 yr old father creates drama everywhere he goes. He fights with his caregivers, doctors, property manager, neighbors, nurses, etc.
He calls the police and attempts to get the people who are caring for him fired, accuses them of theft and elderly abuse and later admits to me that he flat out lied because he hates them. He wants to sue people and makes falsified reports. His behavior is extremely aggressive, he uses profanity and yells at the top off his lungs for the littlest things. One minute he’s normal and the following minute he’s waving his cane and putting people in corners. Everyone is afraid of what he can do next and they don’t won’t to work for him because they fear losing there job or their lives. I’m his daughter, I don’t visit him alone because I’m afraid of him too as he’s tried to physically attack me during his violent rage. Does anyone have any advice?

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My difficult father created chaos in a different way. He set things up so that other people fought, tried suing people etc. I came to the conclusion it was about power. He loved to see people in a mess that he had caused. He really enjoyed it. I think he wasn't nuts, just nasty. And yes he could also be good company if he wanted to. Stay as far away as you can, was my conclusion.
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StayingPositve Jun 2020
Thank you:)
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By the way 73 is not elderly. My 73 yr old just came home from a day golfing.
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With all Dads health problems, he needs to be evaluated. Labs the whole nine yards. How to get him there is another problem. You may want to call APS and report him as a vulnerable adult. Or wait till a crisis and have him evaluated while he is in the hospital. Then transfer him to a NH. An AL would not take him. There are meds for him.
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StayingPositve Feb 2020
Thank you! I appreciate your insight. I’m learning as I am going and your advice is very helpful ( you have no idea how lost I have been). I will take the initial steps. My dad has had med prescribed but he but refuse to take them. The next step is getting him to a geriatric psychiatrist as Barb mentioned below. If there is an episode that arises prior to I will then take the additional steps that you two have provided. Thanks again.
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Get him to a geriatric psychiatrist if you can.

If you can't and he physically threatens you, call 911 and get him transported to a psychiatric facility for evaluation.

Look up "Baker Act" and the name of your state to learn more.
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