My grandmother is in an assisted living facility with her husband in New Bern, NC. I live in Florida. Her children have passed away. I am her only family. I want to be the legal contact that is called in the event that a decision needs to be made about her healthcare treatments. Currently, her husband's son is assisting with decisions. What steps should I take to make this happen? Thank you.
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Step 2 - are you sure that you are the best person to be making healthcare decisions for her? It isn't just about blood ties. It could be that your uncle-by-marriage, being on the spot and perhaps involved in their care for a long time, has a more in-depth understanding of her situation.
Still, I applaud your wish to step up. Would you be able to go and visit them in person? The ideal approach would be to talk to your grandmother, her husband and his son about your wish to be involved and, assuming she agrees and is legally able, for your grandmother then to appoint you as her proxy or create a new healthcare POA, whichever applies in her state.
Are you currently on good terms with the husband and his son?