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A "good approach" would be for you to meet your husband where he's at, not where you'd like him to be, and just accept that his brain is now permanently broken, and there's nothing you can do to stop it.
Another "good approach" would be to educate yourself as much as possible about the horrible disease of dementia, so you are better prepared for what lies ahead, and also to get all of your important papers in order, POA's, Wills, POLST or MOST forms etc.
Bottom line....the only one that needs to be "enlightened" is you, as you will be the one who will be dealing with everything as time goes by.
Wishing you the very best as you travel this very difficult road with your husband.
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Patty, there isn't one. He has lost the ability to understand because his brain is broken.

If you keep trying to enlighten him, it will only frustrate you and will do nothing for him. Even if you were able to create a brief little spark in which he fully understood his condition, he probably wouldn't recall anything about it two minutes later. Then you're back where you started and trying to create that little spark again. It's pointless. The important thing for you is to accept what IS and to maximize enjoying your time with him.

I'm so sorry.
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Anosognosia, from the Mayo Clinic: Anosognosia is the inability, in a neurologic sense, to be aware of impairment. We will contrast this with psychological denial, or an inability to accept or admit one has impairment. Or put another way, it isn't that our patients won't admit cognitive impairment, it is that they can't entirely see it.

Anosognosia is common with FTD. Here is a link to an in depth article about it:


https://www.theaftd.org/posts/news/what-to-do-about-anosognosia/

Best of luck to you.
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Sorry. You cannot inform or reason with a brain that is no longer capable of reasoning or absorbing and computing information. So, sadly, there is no way.
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