My MIL has been living with us since 2020. It has caused financial, relationship, and family issues. I admit I have brought up my unhappiness with this situation so much because he is clearly being taken advantage of by his able bodied healthy 65 year old mom who has plenty more money than we have . He is mean and nasty to me but no one can blame his mom for anything. He is suffering and not going to work making impulsive purchases and not thinking clearly. His mom has taken over his mind it seems and he is basing all his decisions around her in some kind of subconscious way and he doesn’t know who he is anymore or what he is doing. He blames me and just is generally all over the place and has contempt for me or anything I do and when I bring up his mom he is so upset and will not attribute any of his problems that have gotten worse since his mom moved in with us, to his mother it’s my fault even when it doesn’t make sense. I don’t even know how to fix this. He walks around like I am the one who created this mess and I just am so confused
You've received very constructive and great advice from many on this post - I hope this helped you to take a step back, and assess your situation from an objective and constructive viewpoint. So, based on all that you've read and learned, my suggestion is for you to literally write down a plan and the steps so it's not overwhelming and it's more effective in accomplishing - and the time line.
What do you feel are the steps that you'd like to put into motion - and the time frame? By the way, we're all virtually cheering you on on the sidelines and wishing you all the very best!!
Wishing you strength to endure this. It will be hard but you will come through it.
May you receive clarity, wisdom, courage, strength and peace in your heart on this life-changing journey.
If I'm with someone and I start to feel unstable, that means I'm being gaslighted.
I left my family for ten years, was happy, then go back to my family, and I feel unstable again.
The issue is not me, the issue is my family is a bunch of crazy making narssasist.
Some things just can't be fixed I'm sorry. I think first thing you should do is find a good therapist.
Improve your self easteem, realize you deserve better.
This new occurrence (of your slimy husband cheating) will catapult you to a better new life without him. It's a lot to deal with in the moment, but do all that you can to strengthen yourself and use that energy to move forward.
You can do it - you sound very strong...and when all of this is behind you, you WILL be empowered and freed - from this toxic situation. Consider yourself fortunate that you didn't waste any more time...there are better days in front of you!
Success is the best revenge - and I'm wishing you a very successful and happy new life ahead of you!