She believes the panties help keep the poop from leaking out of the diapers. So not true. I believe they just make it harder to pull her diapers down in time to go. Poop is everywhere! I'm sick of it and of having to pretreat the stains and wash them. Is having panties meeting some emotional need she has? What should I do?
As a short term I would move immediately to disposable stretch over-pants. Wherever you buy the disposable nappy pants ask if they have stretch pants. I may call them different to you (google Tena fix pants to see what I mean). They can be rewashed a few times or just thrown out! Are super stretchy so much easier to get up & down but feel like underwear & that may please Mum. Sort of a boy-leg unisex trunk shape - but many ladies tell me they are really comfy.
Can also change to these in future -just add small changeable pads - if you can ever get to a better stage. I hope so & good luck.
Has she been seen by a doctor and does she have a medical diagnosis for the diarrhea? Any lab tests (poo sample) or colon studies (scope) done? If not, she needs to have a GI workup. Has she tried a food elimination diet?
Has she tried these foods daily?
Oatmeal, cream of wheat, cream of rice, bananas, applesauce, plain white rice, bread or toast, boiled potatoes and plain crackers.
Stop most fruit and dairy products.
Be sure to drink more liquids to replace the fluid lost in the diarrhea.
There are many medications, from antibiotics to anti-spasm meds, for intractable diarrhea. Prayers for you both.
You should check with her doc on this. I gave mom one Walgreens Super Probiotic each day. Sometimes she would end up with what others would call constipation. Had to have her flushed out a few times. But, there was really no reason why she should not have been able to go due to the consistency of the stuff that came out.
I think because of mom's chronic diarrhea she forgot she had to push to get it out. Probiotic controlled something that had been awful to deal with for decades.