My mom acts like she is scared to walk. She has this baby shuffle and can barely stand up. But yet she will move around her room only if I ask her to sit in chair or bed she starts this.
I am working on getting her physical therapy to strengthen her legs. But last nite 3:30 am she's sitting in the chair and pooped and peed on everything. As I'm telling her what's going on she's telling me I didn't do this or that and it's mess everywhere. She's looking at poop and acted like it was nothing. It was hell cleaning her. And she's telling me I'm killing her. Now I'm wondering how to deal with this. I can't put her in shower chair everyday. I have two depends on her. But how can I handle this!?! I was exhausted back killing me she was spent as well. I know I need help but I have none. I need a good plan. And any suggestions would help... Please!
Ignore comments suggesting you martyr yourself and keep in mind your mother needs more care than you're capable of providing her at this point.
Best of luck
How do you handle it? Try to manage her diet so that she is more regular in her bowel habits. Adding psyllium fiber may help firm things up, but ask her physician's advice before starting any meds or supplements. Have her sit on the toilet or commode fr 5 to 10 minutes after she has eaten, it is a natural time to go and I figured catching even the occasional bowel movement was better than the alternative. And... do not rule out a facility. I thought I could take care of my mother until the end but I was wrong, it isn't necessary to let it reach the breaking point like I did.
Placing an elder is not carelessly “sticking them in a facility”.
How is it that you got stuck with your mother? Does she pay you rent? Does she pay for utilities/food?
You get up multiple times a night with her. You must be sleep deprived. That is a form of torture.
When will it be time to consider a facility for your mother? Why haven't you already?