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Who are you caring for?
Which best describes their mobility?
How well are they maintaining their hygiene?
How are they managing their medications?
Does their living environment pose any safety concerns?
Fall risks, spoiled food, or other threats to wellbeing
Are they experiencing any memory loss?
Which best describes your loved one's social life?
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By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid. We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour. APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment. You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints. Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights. APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.I agree that: A.I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information"). B.APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink. C.APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site. D.If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records. E.This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year. F.You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
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Your loved one may not require home care or assisted living services at this time. However, continue to monitor their condition for changes and consider occasional in-home care services for help as needed.
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I took care of my 93 year old mom for 5 years. It also became overwhelming and stressful for my family. I made the decision to place her in an assisted living facility. She has been there 5 weeks and is adjusting. There are certainly still some things to figure out but my life is better. I am not as stressed. I visit every day and those visits are more mother/daughter visits than my constant caregiving task driven efforts. I will tell you that it was incredibly hard to do. I have never been so emotional. Once through the transition, you will find a good balance for you, your family and your mom. Best of luck to you.
It should help in your decision making (and level of self-induced guilt) that your husband and marriage has priority over your mom. Does she qualify for LTC, seeing that she has vision and mobility issues? Medicaid will pay for that if she also qualifes financially.
You don't have to tell her you're researching places. Only take her to the one you think is the best choice. My MIL is in a very nice place, on a lake, in her own private room on Medicaid. They treat her royally good. She enjoys that it's far more social than being isolated and cloistered in her home.
Eventually your mom will need more care than you can realistically give her, no matter if you wanted to provide it personally in your home or not. No sense in waiting for a crisis to try and get her into a good care facility. You will need to figure out the financial piece and what type of are she'll need. All will take a little time. Wishing you success in transitioning her and reclaiming your life!
You’ve reached out here because you know this level of caregiving has become too much to sustain on your own. Please don’t choose to lose your own health or relationships to continue in this role. Time for an honest family discussion and looking into alternative living arrangements for mom. She’ll have her daughter back as a rested, unstressed caregiver who oversees her care rather than one who provides it around the clock. I wish you the best
So now is the time to think about alternative care options for mom, before your marriage is destroyed and/or your health is destroyed trying to care for her!! How about Assisted Living? My mother thrived in AL for a good long time before she had to go into Memory Care. She had a full life in AL with all the activities and other elders to hob-nob with all day long!
Look into it BEFORE you break down and/or before the relationship with mom is harmed beyond repair. Oftentimes, AL can save your marriage, your life AND your relationship with your mom, all at the same time. Please don't allow 'guilt' to creep into the decision making process, either. 3 years is a very long time to have devoted to in home care. My hat is off to you for all you've done for your mom.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
B.
APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
D.
If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
E.
This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
You don't have to tell her you're researching places. Only take her to the one you think is the best choice. My MIL is in a very nice place, on a lake, in her own private room on Medicaid. They treat her royally good. She enjoys that it's far more social than being isolated and cloistered in her home.
Eventually your mom will need more care than you can realistically give her, no matter if you wanted to provide it personally in your home or not. No sense in waiting for a crisis to try and get her into a good care facility. You will need to figure out the financial piece and what type of are she'll need. All will take a little time. Wishing you success in transitioning her and reclaiming your life!
Look into it BEFORE you break down and/or before the relationship with mom is harmed beyond repair. Oftentimes, AL can save your marriage, your life AND your relationship with your mom, all at the same time. Please don't allow 'guilt' to creep into the decision making process, either. 3 years is a very long time to have devoted to in home care. My hat is off to you for all you've done for your mom.
GOOD LUCK!