Are you sure you want to exit? Your progress will be lost.
Who are you caring for?
Which best describes their mobility?
How well are they maintaining their hygiene?
How are they managing their medications?
Does their living environment pose any safety concerns?
Fall risks, spoiled food, or other threats to wellbeing
Are they experiencing any memory loss?
Which best describes your loved one's social life?
Acknowledgment of Disclosures and Authorization
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid. We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour. APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment. You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints. Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights. APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.I agree that: A.I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information"). B.APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink. C.APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site. D.If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records. E.This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year. F.You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
✔
I acknowledge and authorize
✔
I consent to the collection of my consumer health data.*
✔
I consent to the sharing of my consumer health data with qualified home care agencies.*
*If I am consenting on behalf of someone else, I have the proper authorization to do so. By clicking Get My Results, you agree to our Privacy Policy. You also consent to receive calls and texts, which may be autodialed, from us and our customer communities. Your consent is not a condition to using our service. Please visit our Terms of Use. for information about our privacy practices.
Mostly Independent
Your loved one may not require home care or assisted living services at this time. However, continue to monitor their condition for changes and consider occasional in-home care services for help as needed.
Remember, this assessment is not a substitute for professional advice.
Share a few details and we will match you to trusted home care in your area:
She has very bad arthritis in both knees and sometimes both knees give in and it is dead weight. What do I do when she needs to sit on a toilet seat and I need to lift her?
I had a client who LOVED me b/c, in her words "You are so STRONG!" Well, I used to be--I was killing my back, moving her, as she would go completely boneless at times and have me tugging and hauling at her to get her to sit upright so I didn't have head in my lap as I was driving.
One day, after PT, the PT walked us out to the car. I asked him if he could help me with some maneuvers that would help her help ME. He had some simple moves where she was doing the lion's share of work and I was there to control the moves. I have long since forgotten, but a person will take all the strength out of you if you give them half a chance.
Get a PT to help you with these moves. Both getting her in and out of the car became much less onerous!
I'm sure, had I needed to, the PT could also have shown me ways to change her depends. By the time she needed those, the family moved her to a full time living arrangement. But I know if I had needed it, we could have had some kind of training in helping her.
Get the brief diapers with tabs. While she is laying in bed, roll her on one side. Slide the brief under her, roll her over on top of the diaper. Then, roll her over to the other side. Position the diaper so it will cover her bottom. Roll her back upright and affix tabs. When it’s time to change her, it will be easier to clean her up while she’s laying in the bed instead of trying to get her up to the potty. This is my life. My mother had a stroke and even through pt and continued exercise, has no strength to stand without help.
This brings back unhappy memories, I'm afraid I spent a lot of time shrieking at my mother to "stand, stand, stand the eff up" as her legs gave out and she'd slowly sink to the floor. How exactly are you getting her to the bathroom and onto the toilet? If she's in a wheelchair how are you doing transfers? How are you dressing her? What about bathing??
To answer your question - you can tear the pull ups down the side to help in removing them, or you could try tab style briefs. If she is in a wheelchair you could buy (or modify) pants designed for wheelchair users that have an open back (like these) https://www.buckandbuck.com/womens-fleece-back-flap-pants.html
Depending on her ability and if she is willing you could help her to work on some simple PT exercises to help strengthen her legs, these https://eldergym.com/leg-exercises/ are identical to the ones my mom's PT had her doing.
After my monumental flop at caregiving, I would marvel at the gentle totally effective ways that her aides could handle her care when she transitioned from my “perfect” home setup to her nursing home life.
If she had something to hold on, like arms, could she hold herself up long enough? You can put a commode over the toilet. New ones come with a bucket and splash shield. You will use the shield. There is a bar on the back if the commode that u remove. Slip the commode over the toilet. Legs can be adjusted but not too high because tge shield needs to go in the toilet passed the rim. The commode comes with its own toilet seat so you can remove the one on the toilet or put it up. This gives the person some stablity and arms to help hold her up.
Have you looked into getting a Sit To Stand? This is a great piece of equipment that will help your mom stand, she does need to bear some weight. You can use the Sit To Stand to transfer her from a chair to the toilet and back or in and out of bed. If she can not bear weight at all then the piece of equipment that you would need would be a Hoyer Lift. Switch to a Tab Type brief. She can be changed laying down. Or if she can bear weight for a bit the tab briefs can be put on while she is standing.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
A.
I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
B.
APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
D.
If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
E.
This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
One day, after PT, the PT walked us out to the car. I asked him if he could help me with some maneuvers that would help her help ME. He had some simple moves where she was doing the lion's share of work and I was there to control the moves. I have long since forgotten, but a person will take all the strength out of you if you give them half a chance.
Get a PT to help you with these moves. Both getting her in and out of the car became much less onerous!
I'm sure, had I needed to, the PT could also have shown me ways to change her depends. By the time she needed those, the family moved her to a full time living arrangement. But I know if I had needed it, we could have had some kind of training in helping her.
How exactly are you getting her to the bathroom and onto the toilet? If she's in a wheelchair how are you doing transfers? How are you dressing her? What about bathing??
To answer your question - you can tear the pull ups down the side to help in removing them, or you could try tab style briefs. If she is in a wheelchair you could buy (or modify) pants designed for wheelchair users that have an open back (like these)
https://www.buckandbuck.com/womens-fleece-back-flap-pants.html
Depending on her ability and if she is willing you could help her to work on some simple PT exercises to help strengthen her legs, these
https://eldergym.com/leg-exercises/
are identical to the ones my mom's PT had her doing.
After my monumental flop at caregiving, I would marvel at the gentle totally effective ways that her aides could handle her care when she transitioned from my “perfect” home setup to her nursing home life.
I am enormously grateful to them.
This is a great piece of equipment that will help your mom stand, she does need to bear some weight. You can use the Sit To Stand to transfer her from a chair to the toilet and back or in and out of bed.
If she can not bear weight at all then the piece of equipment that you would need would be a Hoyer Lift.
Switch to a Tab Type brief. She can be changed laying down. Or if she can bear weight for a bit the tab briefs can be put on while she is standing.