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Mom asked to live with us in 2018. My life has been a nightmare for a year and a half. My siblings didn't want her to come live with me. They tried to stop her but couldn't. Then they began to harass us and try to be disrespectful to her on the phone. I have stopped all contact with my siblings. I need help and have contacted agencies including the FBI, other forms of law enforcement, Adult Protective Services, Aging and Disabilities, etc. It is a very complex situation and I don't know the laws for elderly abuse and types of abuse. I need help.

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When you contact these agencies, what are you telling them and what are you asking them to do?

Your profile explains that you have a disability yourself for which you need the support of your own caregiver. Your mother has quite a long list of difficulties which I expect means she too needs a good deal of care and support in day to day life.

Your siblings did not think it was a good idea for her to come and live with you. Why did you disregard their advice so completely?

Apart from accusations coming from your mother, do you have any information at all about the abuse you fear she has experienced? Allegations of abuse must always be taken seriously, always listened to, and/but always investigated. In an 85 year old with sensory impairments and mental ill health, it is all the more important to be alert to risks BUT it is equally important to establish facts.

You say you have been going through a nightmare in the eighteen months since your mother arrived in your home. Much of this, has it, has come from the conflict with your siblings? - but what about taking care of your mother? How are you coping with that?
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Post living with you, she doesn't live with you now? Is she now living with sibs that you think are abusing her?
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Countrymouse Dec 2019
Other way round, I think - the 'family' are the siblings, and mother is now living with the OP. There is also the harassment the OP feels she and her mother have experienced over the last 18 months.
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I don’t understand your question. Can you clarify please? Are your siblings abusing her?

I feel that we need more information in order to help you.
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