my mother is just transitioning from her home to an assisted living. she says she wants to die. she said that at home too. her husband died
5 years ago. she's on antidepressant. she won't do anything for herself now,
she is healthy. she's given up. what can we do?
Getting old in this country is not a humane endeavor. It should be much easier than this. Other countries treat their elders with much more respect and loving attention...where did we go wrong??
Hang in there~
Hap
As far as helping her through this...I would have to say that time, and your loving attention is the best. She is grieving many things and you can't "make it better." Try listening for a few minutes then "redirecting" to something more positive. Try to find anything (even small things) that she enjoys doing or talking about.
Also, she needs to get outside of her home environment, even if it is a short drive. My Mom feels and looks so much better after an outing (it is just hard to convince her to go!)
good luck